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There we go, just decorated you thread for you to help cheer you up! Be happy soon Eska! :-)

yeah sure, here you go (sprout)

It annoys me when people have this naive idea that just because a man is married he won't look at another. I wish they didn't. In an ideal romantic world they wouldn't...but they do. I don't believe that you should be made to feel 100% in the wrong, or to take the entire blame. Yes, fancying someone who is married and making them aware of it one way or another is wrong. Flirting with a married man is wrong. But we mustn't forget here, that he is well aware of his marriage and his responsibilities as a true and loyal husband to his wife, and yet he seems to be the one who is encouraging all of this attention! Perhaps if he didn't look at you in the very flirtatious way that he did, it's possible that this whole thing might not have started. (Sometimes people DO take an interest in a person just because that person may have suddenly taken an interest in them first). If he was professional from the start, this attraction might not have happened. As a lot of people here know, there can be an awful lot of isolation in doing a research degree, so when this great academic man shows a massive interest in you, I can imagine it would be difficult to ignore.

I agree with sneaks here. Write up a list of all the 'To Do's' - everything you can think of that needs doing, and take it one step at a time. But be realistic here, you are behind, so you will have to keep to a very strict plan with little room for f*ck ups. However, as much as you have to be strict with the work in order to get back on track, you have to be just as strict with social time and chilling out time. You really can't ignore these times. You will be more likely to be able to keep to your strict timetable if you really do permit yourself to take time off too.
Someone else here suggested a week off...yeah that sounds good, but haven't you had enough time off already? I think you've been procrastinating too much and worrying about things that may never happen.
As much as we are all human and totally capable of making mistakes, I think you know that you've allowed yourself to get stuck in a rut. But you know that you're better than this. So why don't you start with the plan, and list all the things you have got to do, tackle them one at a time - it won't be long until all the small achievements mount up, and remember:

Progression NOT Perfection.

HaHaHa Cobweb2 might be the loser....but I'm the REAL Cobweb - and I'm BACK!!

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Yay! Thank you so much! Here, have a little prezzie (gift)

Get outa my way algae!!

Yaaayyyyy!!!!! Congratualtions everyone!! Lets crack open a bottle of plonk to celebrate!

I almost p*ssed myself with laughter!:-)

On the one hand, you've convinced there jinkim, but on the other, doesn't a Phd require a lot of skill and thought before it is presented?
We're not just presenting the idea of the research, or the proposal...(don't know where I'm going here, but there is a point in there somewhere :-) )

You've kind of got me there keep_calm. I do agree with you...but then again, wouldn't that destroy the beauty? If you hacked it off and stuck it into a gallery, wouldn't the cutting down of the tree and presenting it in a caged environment, represent something far more sinister than capturing the essence of what was initially beautiful?

Perhaps then, the skill IS needed so that you can capture the moment, rather than destroying it and exposing it, and thus putting a greedy undertone to it, be it money, fame, etc..

I think it is more a case that people can relate to such art, and find them interesting because of that, rather than because they think it is beautiful. Real beauty comes from somewhere else...perhaps like a spiritual feeling, like those moments when you were happily walking along down the road to catch a bus, but something, perhaps a branch on a tree, moved and captured your attention for a moment and transported you from the practical and ordinary thing you were doing, to a higher sphere of contemplation.
We too often ignore those moments and carry on walking, for fear that someone is watching us and thinks we've lost our marbles. This is why we need good, creative, and skillful art - to bring those beautiful moments to our attention and remind us of those simple beautiful things in life among the practical.
Art today is too reflective of the practical. It doesn't free us.

Stressed - Simon Cowell...REALLY. that's worse :p

the thing is (I know it sounds daft and crazy!), but it's difficult to submit work too....man I gotta get over it

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I'm going through exactly the same thing. For me, I can't stand the thought of going into the building where he is though. It makes me feel sooo uncomfortable, because just like you, I also get tongue-tied and say the most stupid things, and I can't bear the pain and embarrasment of it all - so I just try and avoid him altogether. The thing is - it is damaging my work a bit. Can you imagine!? If I can't even bear to accidently bump into the guy, how the hell am I going to cope in his company for a whole hour in a meeting. He's also (obviously!) very intelligent - and the other students find this a bit intimidating. But for me, I saw this as a challenge. But I'm not anywhere near his academic status, so how retarded am I?? I even get worried about emailing him!!!

So, Phd_Smug, you're not alone.

But then again, perhaps it's not 'fancying him' that I'm feeling. Is it possible to admire someone so much? So much that you can't bear to be in their company? Has anyone else googled their supervisor's name?

ME!