Happy Friday everyone.
xx

There seems to be a bit of an epidemic as a few couples I know have split. It's awful for everyone and especially if you have the added stress of a PhD - but I can really recommend a book called "Its called a break up because it's broken". Its very light hearted but also full of good advice - written by one of the script writers of SITC.

It really helped me a few years ago when I was heart broken and thought the world as I knew it was over.

I am so sorry everyone I remember breaking up is s***. Big hugs all round.

Hi

First off I am curious what FDA is? Functional discourse analysis?

I was the same - I started believing I was doing CDA or rhetorical analysis, but actually I think I am doing some thing more multi-modal. But I think that is the beauty of the method, that it is so adaptable, but the mthodology can be a nightmare with some weighty reading.

Although I admire Faircloughs work particulalry the new labour new language and his recent book on globalisation when it comes to actually pinpointing a method and locating it, it's all rather iffy. I have returned to Foucault and some social semiotics for my methodology. It makes my head go all ga-ga, but I think your super is right, it really helps in the end, more than you think.

Good luck I feel your pain!

hello welcome back

sorry you've had a horrible time, but big hug and hopefully things are going to be a lot better for you from now on.

Yey - well done Piglet. So glad to hear things are on the up!

Things have been a bit tough for our piglet post PhD and I'm worried as she doesn't seem to be around. Piglet where are you?

Thanks for your help Ju.

I discovered one of my mates really enjoys playing, so I went over and had a go yesterday. Blimey - it's pretty detailed stuff.I was amazed at the level of creativity it allows for.

Anyway thanks again. It ws cool of you to get back to me on it.

Hi Ju

Thanks for your reply. Can I ask how old youor sister is?
I guess some Q's I have are why is it so addictive?
Do you network or is it possible to network with other people in it?
Do you behave / act like you do in real life or is it being a completely diffrent persona?
Have you ever noticed any product placement?
Are there lots of forums and groups that you participate in.

Thanks.

I am doing a little bit of research on this, & I have never been a user.
The usual sources and online journal research isn't throwing up much and I just wondered if anyone could add any insight as either a player or because it's more their area?

Article in The Independant today about how foul Crocs are!
It mentions that Bush has a pair. I rest my case.

Juno there is no way I will EVER change my family name even if I married a Rockafella!
My surname/maiden name is quite unusual and very much part of my cultural identity and well who I am.

As I said in my earlier post several of my friends who have married in the last few years have not changed their name or gone double barrel and actually I think there is a real shift towards women keeping their surnames.

You poor thing. If he has sent you a gracious response "no harm done" etc then do your best to not worry and put it behind you. Hopefully he has deleted it and will forget it quicker than you.

I once sent a text message to my 90 year old Nan, instead of a mate by mistake about how crap in bed someone was I had slept with. Nice.

Big Hug.

Think of it this way, if he got made redundant, or found out he was ill, or had some awful news that made him depressed, where as you couldn't ever completely understand because it was happening to him, because you love him you'd do your best to be there for him. He needs to get his head round the fact you need him and need him to be flexible and understanding. If he won't - cut him loose!

First off I am sorry that you are going through this. I have a lot of empathy for you as I have had untold opposition about my PhD from my b.f and his family.

Its out of the question to even consider giving up the thesis and especially at this stage. It sounds to me as if he is going down the emotional blackmail route and thats just not on.
A PhD is not forever and whereas it is v.hard for a non PhD partner to understand the pressure, strains, isolation, etc they don't have to understand it to be supportive. Put your foot down and keep your fingers crossed he'll grow up. Its scarey but from what you've said it sounds as if you're in a loosing battle with him so be prepared for a break-up. Again I'm very sorry about it.