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I know I risk annoying you here but I have to say again that I still feel you give the impression that you care too much about how you think others will perceive your decisions. You posted on a similar theme elswhere when talking about how you prefer the prestige of certain job titles for PhD students. The symptom of this is overthinking simple things and assigning undue importance to things which are unimportant.
I might be wrong here but that is what I feel is happening in your case. Of course its almost impossible to be certain when chatting over the internet.
I'm not annoyed : ) I assure you though that I don't care/mind about how others perceive my decisions (if you knew me then you wouldn't even entertain the thought!). However, I do care about the implications of my decisions. Those are two different things as I tried to explain earlier.
In this case, I agree that I am being a little too weary / paranoid and overthinking a simple decision. But that's because of my PhD and some of the decisions I made there - not realising that it would have an impact later.
Yeah, like I said, it is very difficult to read people online.
OK lets deal with the second paragraph of your post above.
I am not surprised you are like this after your experiences with your previous supervisor.
Obviously you want to make sure you dont make the wrong decisions but also you dont want to be crippled by paranoia either.
The obvious suggestion then would be to find out whether this is likely to be a problem or not by extending your enquiries beyond the circle of people you have already spoken to. You have uncertainty and in the void of uncertainty, fear and doubt pile in, drink all the beer and play their music too loud.
I have been drinking too much red bull and watching too much House........