I had a miscarriage last week. Very nasty experience, hope nobody here EVER has to go through it. Anyway, it's back to business with the Phd from now on. I missed the meeting with my supervisor because of it, hope I haven't missed my chance to impress him. At least I have been reminded of where my priorities lie. Phd now, family later. I hope. Hope everyone is ok FF xx

I'm really sorry to hear that FF, hope you are OK.

I'm getting there, thanks for asking. Had to have a D&C under general anaesthetic, which made the whole experience a nightmare. But I'm on the mend and am trying in vain to put the whole sorry episode behind me. I was treated horribly by the hospital, they thought I didn't care because it was unplanmned I think, and made me wait 3 days before giving me the op. I know that wasn't their fault neccessarily, but lets just say they did not address my emotional needs. Anyway, enough whinging now. Thanks for listening everyone.

so sorry FF, as if the miscarriage wasnt bad enough sounds as though you had a horrible experience with the hospital. do hope you have someone to give you lots of TLC at the moment.

FF I am so very sorry for yours & your partners loss & sorry as well that you had bad personal treatment at the hospital to cope with on top of it all. I hope you have the support of your friends and family & wish you all the best. I know it won't compensate in any way but I am sending you a virtual hug & lots of love.

My neighbour just went through a D&C and she had a terrible time too - it didn't sound as if the hospital was as sympathetic as it could have been. I understand resources are tight, but they have to appreciate what a traumatic time it is

Lots of hugs x

Thank you so much, everyone, for the kind messages of support. I'm glad to say that the whole experience is slowly receeding into the past, although I have developed a strong aversion to new born babies, and I can't watch nappy adverts either. Everyone has been really supportive and understanding so I'm able to move on and get on with all the things I thought I would miss out on. It sounds terrible, but I had a list in my head of things I would no longer be able to do; partying until 6am, travelling, studying etc. It's amazing what a good distraction research is from emotion turmoil. And I'm getting a heck of a lot of work done. Hope everyone is okay FFxx

FF, so very sorry to hear about this When you are feeling a bit stronger, please complain to the hospital. It's absolutely disgusting that you have had such a distressing experience. There is no easy way to have a miscarriage but it sounds like it was made even harder for you by the hospital's lack of care. To suggest or to act in such a way that you felt that they thought your pregnancy didn't matter because it was unplanned is appalling. Take care and very best wishes x

Filmfundi, I'm really sorry to hear about what happened. This is one of the reasons I came back, I wanted to reply to your thread.

Thinking of you
xxxx

That's so sweet, H, thank you so much! Yes, I will be complaining to the PCT, not that I think it will do any good. I could actually see how overstretched the staff were. I'm glad to say that I am very much on the mend. I have to tell you, i'm so excitied, my potential supervisor for my PHD contacted me yesterday saying that the first draft of my proposal was innovative and will make a really good thesis. I'm so full of confidence about it now. This whole MC was devastating, but in a way it has made me reassess what is most important to me right now. I know in my heart that I would not have made it through a PHD and have a family. But I must stress that is only me and from the support I have had from you guys I know others in a similar situation would be able to cope.

Hi Tanya, so sorry to hear your news! Perhaps it just wasn't meant to be at this point in your life(that's what I keep telling myself). After it happened I did wonder how you're getting on, I'm so sorry to hear it ended the same way! It's a totally devaststing experience and I hope you are feeling strong enough to continue with your studies soon. I hope everyone you know has been supportive and understanding. I'll be thinking of you, stay strong FF xx