Hi Sylvester! How was the wedding and your speech?

I agree with MistaG.

Hi all! In an effort to try to forget about my supervisor, I am doing some marking tonight watching the "Prison Break". Since my PhD is in a related area, I was wondering how many of you (if any) agree with people being on the death row? I was just reading that after 1992 with all the DNA analyses being possible, more than 1 person per year is exonerated after a wrongful conviction. It is unbelievable, isnt it?

Thanks DanB, Sylvester, H and all the other guys... Maria, I am sorry you feel like that, I suppose you do not enjoy your time in England if you have such misconceptions about the people here.... Its funny, some times our expectations make us blind! As to MY case, I think i won't change supervisor and try to change/ignore/repress the way I feel. Its called adult behavior and thank all of you guys that helped me see things clear and reconsider my priorities. Good luck to all of you!!!

Thanks for your interest Sylvester. No, I do not think I am prepared to go that far. It is also MY reputation in the department that I do not want to ruin. I know that after that I will feel horrible with myself, very embarrassed and may be less motivated to finish my PhD. I think what I wanted to get out of sharing my feelings with you guys is just feeling a kind of relief talking it through with people in a "safe" environment where noone knows me or can judge me for my feelings. I do not take the issue lightly, it is a real problem for me because I do not fall in love very often, so I am rather frustrated and in a way... sad

Hi Sylvester. I am sure that my feelings for him are not the feelings of an 18 year old girl falling in love with a man with power (unlike MistaG and DanB think). We are very close in age and more like colleagues than a professor-student relationship. We all (PhDs and Professors) go out for drinks each Friday, so we know each other pretty well and I am sure I am in love with him for all the right reasons. I don't know whether it is mutual though. He has a good reputation in the department and in the field,he is very professional and I cant see him ever expressing any kind of interest to me or anyone else in the departmet. What I know is that he seeks for my company quite a lot in every opportunity... but again this might mean nothing!

Hi Maria. No, I am not sure I understand what you mean. What are the stereotypes for greek people in England?

Yes, I went to the career services and discussed about it but what they advised me was to control my feelings and continue being his student or it will get very complicated and difficult for everyone. And since my PhD is going well.....

Thank you very much for your replies! I know that if I change supervisor I will have to tell him the reason In the past I tried to change supervisor telling him that I want to continue my reserach in an area that is closer to the research interests of another member of the department but he did everything to keep me under HIS supervision. We have a very good work relationship and he seems to like me as a student/person, which makes things even more difficult because he is very open with me and very enthusiastic.

I find everything I always admired in him. He is only 33 and almost a professor, very intelligent, very ambitious, very handsome, very "gentleman", very humorous... and very helpful and supportive as a supervisor!

Thats a really good point Jewel. No, I take all of his criticism personally because of my interest to impress him on every possible level. His comments affect me a lot, I think about our meetings, I recall his words (The funny thing is that he has asked me to record our meetings so this doesnt make things any better) and in general he is in my mind 24/7. My project goes really well but psychologically I feel very tired of all this. I dont know what to do... I can't continue like this...

opps sorry Maria_z, wrong window!

Thats a really good point Jewel. No, I take all of his criticism personally because of my interest to impress him on every possible level. His comments affect me a lot, I think about our meetings, I recall his words (The funny thing is that he has asked me to record our meetings so this doesnt make things any better) and in general he is in my mind 24/7. My project goes really well but psychologically I feel very tired of all this. I dont know what to do... I can't continue like this...

Thanks guys for your replies. The thing is that day after day, I think of him more and more and I am afraid that it has started to get obvious. I am afraid that soon my behavior and body language will betray me (I blush when he gives me a compliment and my tone of voice, expression etc changes when he suggests that we do something together-e.g. attend a conference). It is really a torture; sometimes I wish he knew...

Or any advice on how to stop feeling like this?