Thank you. Yes, I think it is important that we try and focus on things apart from thesis and academic. I hope I can bring out the fun side of myself and help a romantic side to the relationship develop again. Soon the thesis will begone from my life and I don't want the same to be true of my relationship!

Thank you for all your replies. I gave myself today to be upset and not work. Tmrw I am going to regroup with the thesis and stick to the goal of the handing-in date. I am also going to try and give what I can to the relationship now and try and re-kindle it without neglecting the thesis in hand. It has been a difficult time with depression, living overseas, and two doctoral theses so it is no wonder things aren't great. I do love him and want him to feel the same so I need to try and do something about it now.

I have a month to hand in the thesis and yesterday my long term boyfriend told me that he is unsure if he loves me and wants to be with me anymore. I don't have to say that whilst this was not unanticipated, that it is distressing news. We have agreed on thing we need to do to improve the relationship (more time together, going out and doing more, less phd chat and chat about academic job market etc) but I feel so self-conscious and tearful that I don't know how much of a change I can make and whether it will be enough. Only time will tell but right now it feels like at the point I should be outgoing, gregarious, and happy and attractice I am instead a worn out, tired, PhD student near the end/edge! :-(

Getting scared now! So much to do and little time to do it in what with part-time work for sustenance too! :-( Nocturnal writing is messing up my bodyclock too!

Back again. (sprout)

I will PM you both with my topic, I would cringe if my doctoral advisor could somehow identify me and my neuroses on here!!!!

I had a meeting yesterday with lots of critical feedback and some encouragement. The hand-in will be on the 30th June 2010.

I am sititing down now to make wall charts of what needs to be done every week until then.

I couldn't ask for better feedback from my sups, which is good. Each problem is flagged up with possible solutions and new content to add...

Thanks for looking! :)

Thanks for trying people - and yes, it looks like I will have to ILL it - jsut hope it arrives by the end of June when I need to hand my thesis in!!

I meant old in the sense of probably being too old to find online (most online databases go back to say 1997 or 1999 with journals that are still in print) so I was recklessly hoping someone could find it ;-) My thesis itself is actually a history thesis and my oldest sources date to the 1660s!

Hello - I am being a pain again and begging for a paper (last one I promise!) My institution doesn't subscribe to this one and I can't find it on jstor etc. Does anyone have access and could PM? Eternal gratitude!!

Situation frightful but not necessarily fatal. Rabies in eighteenth century England.
J D Blaisdell
Vet Hist
January 1990 (Vol. 6, Issue 4, Pages 125-33)

Thanks all, I will keep pressing on!

I have just finished applying for a postdoctoral project overseas and it was the most time consuming one ever! I swear undergraduates spent less time on their dissertation than I did on this!

Proposal of 3,500 words
Application Form
CV
Cover Letter
Copies of Certificates

....it goes on...!

I had better get an interview after this investment of time! Wish me luck! :)

DanB

I wouldn't rush to the conclusion that he is not interested in you. He clearly is interested in you, but the distance and not seeing each other that often + work schedule probably means that he is unsure how much time to give to you, this man that he likes, when it seems uncertain what might happen.

Perhaos you could agree to see him or try and ask him if he is around when you are next in his town. Perhaps give some indication that you could be around a bit more frequently...

I had a thing in the past like this with a guy in London, but that is almost 200 miles away from me. 40 miles is much more managable. Perhaps offer some idea that, if he wanted, you would be willing to make a journey to see him frequently so that, if he wanted, a relationship would develop....

invariably? exclusively?