LOL!

Thanks, Slizor! Really needed a laugh today.

Drowningfast, I'm really sorry to hear what you're going through! Yet, I completely understand the emotions you're describing.

I just want to reiterate some of the suggestions here - You definitely need some time off. If it's at all possible to arrange a leave of absence, do so. Maybe your GP could help you get permission for a medical leave of absence due to stress.

I was also struck by the idea that you're thinking of hurting yourself, which is pretty serious. Is it possible for you to see a psychotherapist or psychiatric counselor on campus, or privately? Talking to a professional isn't the same as confiding in a boyfriend, because a therapist should be able to suggest skills for coping with stress, and for seeing your way clearly toward making a decision about how to proceed.

I think I understand your predicament a little, because among my friends and family I am "the listener", and as far as they're concerned, I never have problems of my own. So, like you, I'm a bit isolated in that sense. This may sound strange, but I went to a hypnotist for help dealing with stress and loss of confidence. It is helping a lot, and I would be happy to explain more if you think that's something that would be useful to you.

As you said, distance MBA programs have become popular, particularly among working people. I think it's a different kettle of fish compared with a doctoral program. An MBA usually only takes two years. Also, if you're already working in the corporate sector, most likely you have access to networking and mentoring opportunities.

Wondering if anyone was asked what they plan to do with the Phd, and why they pursued it in the first place?

Is this a typical viva question?

Done! It doesn't take long.

Thanks, Lughna. I'm usually not a down-in-the-dumps person!

I think you're right. "Limbo land" is a good way to describe it: nearly finished, but not quite. But I'll focus on what has been accomplished, rather than the possibility of a bad VIVA or more revisions ahead.

Will treat myself to something fun today! 8-) Thanks again!

My VIVA is in less than two weeks, and yet I feel very depressed and blue about it. There are a lot of posts from people who describe feeling anxious and nervous, but not sad. I didn't expect to feel so down, and it's making it hard to focus.

Yes, same here! I was using Open Office and it didn't occur to me until my tables were all over the place.

It think most unis offer some form of library membership for alumni, or supporters. It's usually a nominal fee. Have you asked about this? At my uni, it's possible to pay for access to online resources per month, or annually.

I agree with Bewildered. A degree program done completely via distance learning is okay if you're already working in your profession. Otherwise, it's very challenging to access the types of networking experiences available to students on campus. A few years ago, I was involved in a project interviewing students who had experienced both on campus and distance programs, and Bewildered's response is similar to the feedback we got from those students. Consider studying part time on campus, or begin your distance program with the intention of eventually transitioning to an on campus program.

I understand how you feel. It's important, but remember that the thesis isn't your magnum opus. Most likely, it will be one of many writing projects over the course of your career.

Done!

Just curious how the issue of transgender might impact the research. (?)

In answer to the last part of your question, to my knowledge, in most countries you would have to change your student visa to a work visa as soon as you graduate. Therefore, it would make sense to start looking for a job or professional internship during your last year of school so that your employer can sponsor your visa.

Not sure what the IT job market is like in NZ. Hopefully, someone else can answer that. But it's so gorgeous there, I'm not sure how you're going to concentrate on studying! Just kidding - good luck!

At first, I was very naive and thought academic conferences were all about networking with people doing similar research, but no...it has a lot to do with err - I believe the term is "hooking up" with sapiosexuals. Must confess, I've vicariously enjoyed all the post-conference stories.