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F

I had a miscarriage last week. Very nasty experience, hope nobody here EVER has to go through it. Anyway, it's back to business with the Phd from now on. I missed the meeting with my supervisor because of it, hope I haven't missed my chance to impress him. At least I have been reminded of where my priorities lie. Phd now, family later. I hope. Hope everyone is ok FF xx

W

I'm really sorry to hear that FF, hope you are OK.

F

I'm getting there, thanks for asking. Had to have a D&C under general anaesthetic, which made the whole experience a nightmare. But I'm on the mend and am trying in vain to put the whole sorry episode behind me. I was treated horribly by the hospital, they thought I didn't care because it was unplanmned I think, and made me wait 3 days before giving me the op. I know that wasn't their fault neccessarily, but lets just say they did not address my emotional needs. Anyway, enough whinging now. Thanks for listening everyone.

A

so sorry FF, as if the miscarriage wasnt bad enough sounds as though you had a horrible experience with the hospital. do hope you have someone to give you lots of TLC at the moment.

P

FF I am so very sorry for yours & your partners loss & sorry as well that you had bad personal treatment at the hospital to cope with on top of it all. I hope you have the support of your friends and family & wish you all the best. I know it won't compensate in any way but I am sending you a virtual hug & lots of love.

S

My neighbour just went through a D&C and she had a terrible time too - it didn't sound as if the hospital was as sympathetic as it could have been. I understand resources are tight, but they have to appreciate what a traumatic time it is

Lots of hugs x

F

Thank you so much, everyone, for the kind messages of support. I'm glad to say that the whole experience is slowly receeding into the past, although I have developed a strong aversion to new born babies, and I can't watch nappy adverts either. Everyone has been really supportive and understanding so I'm able to move on and get on with all the things I thought I would miss out on. It sounds terrible, but I had a list in my head of things I would no longer be able to do; partying until 6am, travelling, studying etc. It's amazing what a good distraction research is from emotion turmoil. And I'm getting a heck of a lot of work done. Hope everyone is okay FFxx

A

FF, so very sorry to hear about this When you are feeling a bit stronger, please complain to the hospital. It's absolutely disgusting that you have had such a distressing experience. There is no easy way to have a miscarriage but it sounds like it was made even harder for you by the hospital's lack of care. To suggest or to act in such a way that you felt that they thought your pregnancy didn't matter because it was unplanned is appalling. Take care and very best wishes x

H

Filmfundi, I'm really sorry to hear about what happened. This is one of the reasons I came back, I wanted to reply to your thread.

Thinking of you
xxxx

F

That's so sweet, H, thank you so much! Yes, I will be complaining to the PCT, not that I think it will do any good. I could actually see how overstretched the staff were. I'm glad to say that I am very much on the mend. I have to tell you, i'm so excitied, my potential supervisor for my PHD contacted me yesterday saying that the first draft of my proposal was innovative and will make a really good thesis. I'm so full of confidence about it now. This whole MC was devastating, but in a way it has made me reassess what is most important to me right now. I know in my heart that I would not have made it through a PHD and have a family. But I must stress that is only me and from the support I have had from you guys I know others in a similar situation would be able to cope.

F

Hi Tanya, so sorry to hear your news! Perhaps it just wasn't meant to be at this point in your life(that's what I keep telling myself). After it happened I did wonder how you're getting on, I'm so sorry to hear it ended the same way! It's a totally devaststing experience and I hope you are feeling strong enough to continue with your studies soon. I hope everyone you know has been supportive and understanding. I'll be thinking of you, stay strong FF xx

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