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I forgot to mention.....I did a self-funded PhD (I have no idea why!! my prof never told me I could get funding...I was 20 and very silly)

So funded this crazy PhD by working in an independent book shop - where I never really made any money because they couldn't afford to pay me so I was paid in books!

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I forgot to mention.....I did a self-funded PhD (I have no idea why!! my prof never told me I could get funding...I was 20 and very silly)

So funded this crazy PhD by working in an independent book shop - where I never really made any money because they couldn't afford to pay me so I was paid in books!

This thread is the biggest wind up ever, isn't it?

I so wish it was it was. You will make me cry again....this is mine and Bea's life. That's it you have me in tears.

Okay - I need to concentrate deadline Monday - whole PhD.

No time for tears - chin up girl and get a grip.

I don't believe a word of it.

But that's just me and this is just the internets.

It is a good story though and I enjoyed reading it.

Hey I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who supported me, cheered me on, and picked me up when I was more than a little down.

Now I am starting to get questioned whether I am just some crazy wind up - I think its time to leave.

The truth is, I never knew anything about this site when I first posted. I thought one or two people might read it - and if I was really very lucky than one person might just tell me things would be alright and that I could do this - that is finish the book!

With your support - I did just that. I have some tidying to do - but I am submitting on Monday. I really hope I pass!

Bea and I are still stuck on the island - but I have hopes for some compromises to be made - and then we will be free to start our new life in England. I miss my husband a lot. Our family door will remain open to him for as long as it naturally does.

I've really enjoyed using this website for many reasons. Its been great to read all about different peoples experiences and their path to achieve what they had hoped.

I think its a little sad when people judge others or use this website to be critical of others. In truth - perhaps this is just the internet culture. Larrydavid is right - I could just be sat here writing some random story - I agree it does sound rather bonkers. But then my life in humanitarian aid has shown me that life is very bonkers at times. There is nothing wrong with questioning - I guess this is human nature.

I just want to concentrate on the happy things in life now - so thank you very very very very much for all of you who put up with me. I will drop back through mid July and let you know whether I passed the viva.

Take care, stay smiley, love Heidi and little miss Bea.

Hi Heidi, it had been lovely having you as a member of this forum. I have followed your posts and am so glad that you are on top of things. :-) Don't worry too much about what LarryDavid posts. I believe that he is mildly autistic, or at least socially unaware/inept, so you have to forgive the young man. Do feel free to continue to post, because 99.99 % of the fouum are right behind you and more than willing to help you where necessary. Take care, Heidi and continue to post :-)

Hi Heidi, thank you so much for posting on here, you have inspired me to keep going and not give up, if you can do it through so much suffering, then surely I can too! Bea is so lucky to have such a wonderful, courageous mother. Congratulations on handing in your thesis tomorrow, I hope everything continues to get better for you, and I hope you'll keep us updated as well. Please don't disappear from the forum (unless you really want to of course), you have a lot of valuable experience to contribute, and most people here will help and support you whenever they can. There's the odd one who likes to wind people up, but they are quite rare ;-). Anyway, enjoy the feeling of handing in, and your break with your family! E xx

Heidi,

From your PMs at the beginning of your crisis and knowing a little more, I know your being truthful and the gentleman causing you the problems should be ashamed of himself.

This place has given you tons of support and helped you through a very difficult time during which you've been highly isolated. Stay strong, you're nearly there. And keep talking as through your messages, you are helping others.

Trying to look after a baby and complete a PhD whilst putting up with a nasty divorce is bound to be emotionally taxing. Ignore the trolls and others who doubt you. There are others here includng myself who are right with you. Right now, you still need us.

Chin up lass, you're almost through it.

Ian (Mackem_Beefy)

Agree with Ian et al - LarryDavid is a controversialist, see his previous posts! There are always going to be people out there like that, you just have to take it with a pinch of salt.

Good luck with hand in today, I can't believe that I myself will ever get there! Have a great time celebrating! (up)

Heidi, We are all delighted that you have done so well and reached submission despite the odds being heavily stacked against you.
You are an inspiration ! Loads of love ans support to you and Bea xxx

Hi Heidi, I am hoping that you have now submitted! I, amongst many other forumees, have been cheering you on from my very remote sidelines as I know how hard it is to finish your thesis under extreme circumstances. It can be done and you have also shown that, well done. With any luck you are having a well earned break with Little Miss Bea who I am sure is equally delighted with your accomplishments. Take a break to distance yourself from your thesis before picking it up for the viva prep. From now on a critical approach to your work is needed to higlight issues, justify your decisions and defend your thesis. We look forward to hearing your good news whether it be on your home front or your PhD. Keep your head held high as you deserve to feel proud. Must dash as my three munchkins are causing chaos in the garden lol :p

Hi Heidi I am really glad that you achieved what you wanted. Just read your story and I feel so happy that even after all the odds and pressure you delivered the best out from you. Keep on your good work. You truly are an inspiration for many who faces so many day to day problems. Hats off to you and congratulations on your success. :-)

It's noticeable that Heidi has gone quiet since LarryDavid's post. :-(

Any mods on here have the power to ban him for a period, as he could have frightened off someone who needs this place's support?


Ian (Mackem_Beefy)

Agree with Ian, I really hope Heidi hasn't been frightened off by LarryDavid. Mods, if you look through LarryDavid's posts he has a history of this sort of thing.

Heidi, please post and let us know how you get on. One small person like LarryDavid shouldn't put you off, when there are so many other members here who will offer you support.