I know this is no use to you moomin but I'm SO GLAD I'm no longer a lab monkey. Also I hate MALDI/TOF MS.

I'm sure there will be people to help you

Why, because you aren't getting enough?

Going back to jradetzky, I feel a bit sorry for him. Affection is such an important part of being a human, I couldn't imagine life without it. You obviously know what you want and what you need. It makes sense in a way, of why you were so interested in that girl. The 2 year "courtship" was obviously attractive to you because of the lack of physical relationship but you obviously need to understand, that after marriage, she would be expecting a normal loving relationship, something that you wouldn't be able to give her.

Rub on a load of tiger balm!

I love tiger balm. I gave some to my friend once and told her it was made of real tigers and she believed me

DJ, I know what you mean. In my UG, there was a morman church across the road and they would always try and convert us. I've scared away a few mormans myself.

However I get really really angry when people try to shove "their" religion down your throat and insist that theirs is more correct than yours. I'm also getting really annoyed with particular religions wanting their own rules etc. Everyone is equal, what makes them so special in the eyes of God?

I think I could rant about this all day but I have more important things to do like the washing

How christian is christmas these days? I reckon quite a few children wouldn't even know the true meaning (even though christian) and would probably say, it's when father xmas comes down the chimney to bring me presents.

We celebrated christmas when me and my brother were younger. Both of us believed in father xmas (until I found out he didn't exist and told him - my parents were very cross with me). We both knew the nativity story, in fact my brother went to a catholic school for a few years and was very intersted in "Jesus".

The fact is, we are hindus but that didn't stop my parents from letting us celebrate christmas, like the rest of our friends. Or even stop our interests in other religions. My mum actually prayed in Churches when we were on holiday. I guess that true Hinduism, which is more a way of life than a religion, says we should not judge people because they are different and this is the way I try to live my life.

Science-based. It bugged me a bit because I was close but then it didn't really have any importance in my future so I got over it pretty quickly. I also knew I didn't deserve a distinction.

Well I was 0.5% away from a Distinction (or something) but I had a fantastic year doing the Masters!

Maybe if I had worked a bit harder, I could have got the distinction. However at the end of the day I wasn't too bothered. It's more my style to do only the minimum work required i.e do my 4000 word coursework the night before handing it in.

I ended up being offered a PhD, so I guess my supervisor thought I was definately capable (although my dissertation was marked >70%).

I don't think the above attitude helps with the PhD and although I know I slack much more than other PhD students, I am researching an area which I am really interested in and that helps.

Hi jradetzky,

I don't think you will ever find the girl you think you are looking for. I don't think you are really looking for anything. You will probably be better off on your own. Mostly as I believe that there aren't any girls out there who would actively seek someone like you, unless they themselves have major issues. In that case, I'm not sure you should put together two people like that.

I think you are scared of women. I think it's something you need to overcome before you can have a proper relationship with anyone.

Actually urges are an important part of life. If we didn't have urges, we wouldn't procreate.

As for your feelings for the young lady, you thinking of her as a little sister, well that means it would be incestous for you to consider a more serious relationship with her. Therefore you probably just wanted to be her friend.

GET GOODY OUT!

and are you related to coastman?

Coastalchick, are you going to do proper research until March or just faff about pretending you are working?

coastalchick, maybe the guy has NO urges. Maybe thats what this whole thing is about?