Me or LM weren't talking of a pregnant woman's getting support haha!

You said more men support women than vice versa and me and Lim both found it relevant to define 'support' a bit before making such a remark.

Clearly, a solely financial definition of support is at the root of all this, and BHC you are not alone. Some of my very well intending male relatives and friends, even ones who are studying and researching social issues, have these ideas.

BHC, what is "support" ?

BHC,

First, isms are not always to be found in "actions" if actions are defined as something physically or materially being done. Prejudices are attitudes expressed verbally, subtly, epidermally. The politics of all isms reside usually beneath the skin of visible actions, discrimination, sadly, often being 'absent' on paper and in 'action' (though not always so) but omnipresent in peoples' standpoints, positions and thoughts. You expressed a thought that pregnancy was a way out of the pressures of having to provide for, and/or having the comfort of someone else support you. That IS an attitude which speaks of gender prejudice. It does not mean you are "doing" something that is against women, or even "feeling" that way, but this comment, as three women on this thread (and probably more) have agreed, without any mutual collaborations or exchanges, does indeed smack of a prejudiced attitude.

Pregnancy is a mutually arrived at decision between two people, not the free choice exercised by one person (although yes, that is sadly true of many countries where sexism is "visibly", "materially" physically inscribed in direct gender bias, gender torture and so forth). Getting pregnant is not an option selected by a woman that exists as one of the ways in which to get supported for by someone else. When two people decide it is time for a baby, they usually divide roles of duty amongst themselves, sharing out the burdens for something that will bring happiness to both. So, if one person must go through the difficulties of physical fatigue, labour and often a profession with it, the other partner walks hand in hand. Like all other mutual, collaborative decisions within a family, there is a division of labour, things being well. So, pregnancy is not an option/way out chosen/selected by a woman.

Finally, nobody got "pissy". If the comment was not problematic, three separate people, all presumably intelligent researchers, who deal with complex academic problems and other issues, would not have reacted in the ways in which they did.

Best

Bug.

Somehow I dont think your A levels matter much for a PhD application...i would push for a more research intentions focused piece, albeit with background about what interests you etc...but this is a PhD, even if you are applying straight from grads, I dont see much logic in writing about A levels...

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Are your A levels really relevant for a PhD app...are u coming straight from undergrad..If for personal reasons etc you eed to mention A levels fine...but if for solely academic purposes...perhaps focus on things more recent than high school?

On a related note, how many conference papers do people uually get to give during a phD (exclusing sphd symposiums of course)

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I am getting the feeling that this is a vague question, soemthing I almost never ask :-(

Dhara,

I am 5 months into a PhD and am looking at a 2.6 yrs submission to graduate in 3 yrs. My supervisor is on board with this. But I should tell you, I almost do *nothing* except my CV, research jobs and my thesis. I write a HUGE lot, my sup reads a HUGE lot, I run very fast, so does my sup. Without that a PhD standard work cannot be achieved, even with that, things may still be doubtful.

As I look at this, unless your thesis is of a SOUND standard you should not submit. and doing sound work in 2.6 yrs time needs a HUGE HUGE amount of effort, please believe me, I am going through it, and it's awfully strenuous. SO you will know best whether you have done that kind of thing. If you have, trust your sup and go ahead. If you have come straight from bachelors and have written something that looks okayish, i woud say hold on.


All I know is, I did masters, I do almost nothing except research and thesis, and I stick to a calendar like a leech. It's unimginably tough to do something really good in such a short period of time. I would agree with all people here that considering you came from a BA and considering your sups slightly doubtful comments, give it time .

best

bug

Ok, seriously, I don't get you. Why did you do this poll? How many people at all voted? Is this for a study? (if it is, you should have made that clear) Secondly, what makes you think people here are 'scientists'? And..i really dont know what to write...i find this whole exercise you went through a lil pointless.

Doodles, that may well be the case for many, but I don't think it can be said to be a generalisable complaint though...completely reverse situations are also visible, and they aren't really too few to count..

ahh the james guy who wanted us to believe that buying essays off internet shelves was the same as writing one yourself or having intellectual conversations about one with teachers/peers?

Hmmm...yeah he was the best!

hehe it was something like

nice paragraph...good work for today


nice zone...


i did good work today


buy a used car or something LOL

totally crap!

what's this post below?