Gosh, pinktrifle, you deserve a medal! Two teenage boys, a husband working away and a new PhD? Good on you. Hope you can reward yourself with a little 'pinktrifle time' occassionally - maybe a facial, a movie or an afternoon with friends every once in a while?

I am in the same situation as pea. My bf earns the money, and since my scholarship ran out 13 months ago, I have brought in the grand sum of $9 (my tax return). While he has been patient, my bf does make comments about 'his money' which I find insensitive. Jobs which were always his (feeding the dog, putting out the rubbish, ironing his clothes) have become my jobs...and I still do all the cooking, cleaning, shopping etc. Sometimes I feel like a 1950s wifey whose only role each day is getting the dinner on the table before hubby comes home after a hard day at work and puts his feet up. I want a job simply so I can have some self-respect again.

Matthew82,

His claim was "gays scare me". Doesn't the word homophobe include the term 'phobe' as in 'phobia' meaning 'fear of'? Therefore, doesn't homophobia, by definition, mean a 'fear of' homosexuals or homosexuality?

Nowhere in the word 'homophobe' is there any reference to hatred or opposition, vehement or otherwise. If I suffer arachnophobia, do I not have a 'fear' of spiders?

Not sure it can be translated any other way. They guy is, by definition, 'homophobic'.

If you want to talk about opposition to gay people, look at his next claim: "I can't stand them". Now here he displays a vehement opposition to them, so you can start talking about him liking or disliking gay people...but he is still homophobic.

...I forgot to add that you are homophobic as well!

You became friends with a girl because she looked like a child?
You don't like it when a female looks mature and like a woman?
You are comparing a future wife with a relative, particularly a little sister?
You are uncomfortable with people hugging you, inviting you to dinner and calling you nicknames?
You don't think humans should have urges?
You don't think old people have sex?
It is physically impossible for you to type the word 'sex'.
You think couples spend 5% of their time having sex? That is 1.2 hours every day. There must be something wrong with me.
You are only interested in finding a GIRL who is 22yo, goes to Oxbridge, has never had s*x, is a talented cook, wants kids and is trilingual?

If you are not having a lend of us, you are going to be a very, very lonely man...and I would be careful voicing that whole 'I like little girls' thing. Sorry to be harsh, but you have kind of given me the creeps and I feel sorry for is the object of your affections.

I call my supervisor Voldemort to his face when I want to annoy him. It is kind of related to his real name and he is a big evil dark lord, being the boss and all. When I am not wanting to annoy him and in emails, I call him by his first name. Behind his back, we call him the Big Kahuna or Voldemort.

Sorry, H. I have been away for a couple of days and I didn't check the date of this thread before I jumped in with a comment. By the way, glad to see you are still here and hope you are feeling better now.

Maybe we all need to take a deep breath, a step back and calm down. When the words hypocrite, facist and annoying get mentioned in one post, I think we are all getting a bit carried away.

If pea is upset or disappointed, I can understand why. Even if pea doesn't smell like wee, nobody wants that written about them on the internet by a stranger. Pea is simply making a fair warning to everyone here to be careful about how much we reveal about ourselves.

Nobody wants you to leave the forum, H. Well, I certainly don't anyway. Perhaps just a couple of days break will make you feel better...I find a big bowl of ice cream helps too.

I have to ask...why were you living in a medievil castle for a couple of months, DJWickid?

Tee hee. Me too. Like in our spare bedroom wardrobe - it is so full that any person who tried to climb in would be crushed under the vacuum cleaner, tennis rackets, sleeping bags, suitcases and cases of wine...plus they would have to be so small that I could beat them with one arm tied behind my back. Yet still I check in there.

Don't even ask what I think is going to climb through the skylight in the kitchen to get me.

Not sure I sleep because I am "at peace" - just lazy maybe?

When my boyfriend is home, I sleep fine. If he goes away, I am just like you. I have to look under the bed before I go to sleep to make sure no one is hiding under there. I check all the rooms of the house are empty, all the windows are locked and I look in all the wardrobes to make sure no one is in there. When I turn the lights out, I am convinced every psycho south of the equator is trying break into my house! I don't sleep properly and am even too afraid to cough in the middle of the night in case someone is outside and then they know what room I am in!

We are a concern, aren't we?

Sara, don't stress about your dreams. I have been in a happy relationship for almost 9 years and still have "naughty" dreams about other boys. I search my feelings when I am awake to find any inkling that I have real feelings about these guys I dream about doing "naughty" things with, and I don't. Not a single real feeling whatsoever. It is really weird.

These are men who I would normally find either unattractive or not my type (the guy guy from uni who doesn't wash his hair, my married supervisor, my other married supervisor, my high school boyfriend who I haven't seen in 11 years...the list goes on). Yet I dream about doing rude things with them and in my dreams I am loving it!

Just enjoy the naughty dreams, I say - as DJW says, a girl has needs...even in her dreams!

A scientist who wants to write more? You are an anomaly!

I agree with Jewel. Focus on your benchwork until you get your lit review draft back. Write up any methods or results your benchwork yields. Otherwise, just enjoy the feeling of wanting to write without needing to do it.

...or BrisVegas as we call it!

sue: I have to admit I had a look at DanB's myspace site yesterday - and it let me look at it once, but later it said it was only for private viewing or something along those lines. Weird.

I don't know anything about myspace either, but I was shocked by how much detail people reveal about themselves - full name, place of residence, qualifications. Is all that identity theft stuff an issue, or is that just media hype?

That is ridiculous. I am BMI 21.96 (but my conversions of metres (1.75m) to feet and inches and kg (65kg) to stones may have been dodgy) - which is middle of "ideal". But whenever I go clothes shopping, I am always beyond a "Large" size. If they only have Small, Medium, Large - often I don't fit the Large...talk about depressing.

I am on a "diet" - just trying to be good and exercise every day - because I am bigger than I would like to be.

Just go with how you feel about yourself, I say. Bugger the scales and the BMI.