Ouch. I am not surprised there was an ambarassing silence. You attempted to fend off criticism in your viva by blaming your supervisor. This was a terrible answer. You left them in thinking that half your thesis was down to him and not yourself. By the end of your PhD you should have verified for yourself that this format was correct and then you should have defended it to the hilt as though you had conceived it yourself. There is no coming back from your error. I think after you said that you were dead in the water I'm afraid.

The point of a viva - Check the following:
1) Was the thesis representing the work of the student.
2) Did the student write it.
3) Was the work significant enough to warrant the award.

You need all 3 to pass. You probably were seen to fail point 1.
In my opinion, you need to overcome that.

I would assume I had not succeeded by this stage.
You could email them for an update.

applepie can you give us an explicit example of this "tone" you are talking about in her emails?
It might help us understand what you mean by her being negative, demanding and hyper critical.
I have a huge problem with anyone attempting to control me so it would be interesting to see an example.

What sort of thing are you asking for advice on?

The owl pattern will stop when you get a job which requires you to be in the office by 9am or when you have a baby or get a dog.
For now, I wouldn't worry about it and just go with whatever helps you be productive.

rewt. Given that you achieved a 2:1, I would suggest you are not well placed to give advice on what it takes to get a 1st.
You may well have got by simply by regurgitating information and developing good exam technique but you shouldn't project that onto those who achieve superb grades.

The original poster should be able to get a funded PhD position but it may take time and it may not be for the PhD position they really want. Grades are everything at this stage unless you are lucky enough to find nobody else applying.