Missy, there are only two people whose opinions count. Yours and your supervisors.
8f your supervisor is happy you should feel free to block everyone else out totally.
At my uni we were told by a range of miscellaneous idiots that we had to attend this seminar or that talk etc. I ignored them all. Someone emailed me asking why I wasnt attending seminars and copied my supervisor on the email. Essentially an attempt to land me in it. I emailed the person back with a terse response "I am unavaliable to attend these seminars" and copied my supervisor. Nobody gets to bully me:-) Didnt receive another message like that again.
You may not feel like it but you probably need to learn very quickly how to say No in a firm way to people or they will simply take the piss. You need to able to do it without being aggressive though.
Saying No feels fantastic because it gives you back control of your life. Something I suspect you feel you dont have which may be contributing to your problems. By the way, I would just say No to doing the presentation. They are hardly going to sack you. They NEED you to pass your viva because it looks terrible if you dont. They are also hardly likely to carry you up on stage and force you to talk. You have the control here. Feel free to start exerting it and feel the joy of No.

Oh and this is YOUR PhD. You have the right to decide what hours you work. Your co workers are irrelevant. Honestly I would laugh if anyone asked me that. My response would be that i couldnt honestly give two f**ks. As for working in industry you can deal with that as and when you get there. Industry is NOTHING like a PhD. I agree with the 9 to 5 bit although that is my personal choice. Unless there is a very good reason you really need to lfeel free to work whatever hours you want.

I will never ever understand this obsession with university rankings.
The project is perfect, the location is perfect so I dont understand the issue.
Do you honestly want to work in an industry where they are daft enough to award jobs based on what uni you went to anyway rather than treating you on your own merit?
IMO university rankings are as useless as journal impact factors when considering almost anything of merit.
Ludicrous academic obsession with both is a large part of why I am getting out as soon as my corrections are finished.
Phew. Glad I got that off my chest :-D

Others may give you a calmer response lol.

Passed viva on Thursday 11th May 2017 with minor corrections which should only take a day or two to fix. I will probably be a week too late with my final corrected thesis to graduate for the summer but will be happy enough to graduate in November.

For those who are still in the middle of their PhDs I will post elsewhere on my experience of the process and also why I have decided to turn down a postdoc opportunity and quit academia. I found it helpful to read the experience of others so will be happy to return the favour.

Very very happy.

To be honest it sounds very much like you are jealous because he works harder and is more successful than you.
You really need to urgently get on top of your own problems. Once you get yourself in a better mental place you will find this jealousy will simply disappear. The alternative is that you let it poison you.
Have you considered how he feels about you?

Excellent advice from pjlu.
Your PhD has absolutely nothing to do with gratifying this supervisor because you cannot control how other people feel about you.
It is about getting what YOU want out of it. After all, you are going to have to sell this puppy in job interviews for years to come.
Make your own mind up about how you want to expand your research ideas and start caring less about what this one unsupportive person expects of you.
It might be time for you to stop seeing this supervisor so often. Stop worrying about getting his approval and take charge of your own immediate future. You will feel more in control that way.
There are plenty of us out there who actively avoid overly involving our supervisors in our work. I know one guy who actively refused to give his supervisor unsolicited requests for progress updates and is now a professor himself. He used to tell his supervisor "When I have something to publish you will be the first to receive the manuscript". I would never go that that length but I certainly need my space.

Good luck.

If your supervisor is gay then he wont be interested in you regardless of how good looking you think you are (I am referring to the strange sentence where you felt the need to tell us you were good looking and a former model).
IMO you need to stop spending so many "hours getting ready" and accept that you cant always have what you want.
Dating a supervisor who DOES want you would be bloody stupid anyway.