hi Swetch
Very good to hear from you!
I have not done the viva yet :-) coming soon
telling myself DO NOT get stressed :-)
have a good week

love satchi

hi Janine
I just pm-ed you :-)
looks like things ARE looking up! when is the next interview then? :-)

hi incognito
I think it's great that you are writing a book now, and at least you do have some teaching to do :-) do you like it in Canada? I have heard a lot of very positive things about Canada and the lifestyle there.

You asked me for tips on surviving joblessness and despair---I got a lot of strength from reading Eckhard Tolle's writings.

PM me if you want to read, and I'll send you what I have.

It's more like being in the Present, and taking each day as it comes. And recognising that what happened in the past CANNOT affect us TODAY, it may read like an unlikely sentence considering our phd SHOULD realistically help us to gain employment etc. but when we are not getting employment etc. it does feel disheartening.

The first thing to realise is that the state of joblessness is temporary.

The state of being depression is brought on by THOUGHTS. So if we can take charge of our thoughts, we become more aware of what is going on--and THEN we can handle the situation better, whatever situation it is---car crash, winning the lottery, end of the world etc.

(but then people may argue--how can it be temporary when joblessness has been going on for x or y amount of time etc.--that is why you need to read how Eckhart Tolle explains)

Another instance of how he answers people who ask him, "how can I be happy when I am so depressed all the time?"

he answers, "you are unhappy because you have forgotten who you really are"

It is really worthwhile to read his teachings because his writings are also similar to teachings from the Heart Sutra (the essence in Buddhism) but the great part about it is that Eckhart Tolle is easy to read and easy to understand. There is no part about organised religion etc. so it really goes straight to the reader, direct and clear.

I'm sure something will turn up for you too, incognito!
keep going

love satchi

congrats! :-)
how bout you say on your application "I have passed my viva"

love satchi

hi there
your supervisor should go through the university because for you to start a phd the university needs to sponsor you. He can advertise IF the university is a qualified Tier 4 sponsor, because of visa regulations. In the UK, there must be an advertisement so that the application is open to all--so that you are not depriving the position from others.

The university needs to know that your supervisor has a grant to fund your phd otherwise you may end up illegal and your university will get in trouble with UKBA.

love satchi

hi janine I'd just seen this thread!
Best of luck for the job! I think it's great to be in a shop for now. Why not :-)
Just be in the shop and keep applying for a phd
it will happen soon

love satchi

hi swetchha
I am ok thanks very much. I also haven't applied for jobs since the last rejection. It looks like you need to take a break from job search (like me :-))

the feeling of losing self-confidence will be only temporary, swetch, sometimes when you feel like you lost faith, it will be uncomfortble but it will pass eventually, please believe me. Remember that your phd was GOOD work and you ARE good work, I'll keep reminding you!!!

I was also depressed and lost faith in my phd as well but Swetchha the good news is that I have got over this! I'm not actively searching for jobs at the moment--but I still look at the adverts--AND this time I don't feel sad about them (that I don't have the proper publications etc. etc.) I don't feel sad anymore.

when we are feeling down about ourselves, it may be worthwhile to look at what we have in the present and see the good side of it--like me now....lady of leisure :-)))) (ok because I dont' have a job) but at least I don't have huge monetary debts---I have a nice bf--all my senses and faculties are working--and I can still sing!

please dont be too disheartened, dear swetchha,
and thank you so much for remembering me

love satchi

congratulations Dr. Slizor!!!!

love satchi

hi marasp
good to hear that your phd is going fine

sometimes we get into a state of "high" when our phd is in the swing---and our minds go into hyper-mode as well--the thing is that we all need to have a very calm, clear and well-rested head and body to complete our phd---

--and even calmer, clearer, MORE well-rested head and body for our defence later....

so applying for an extension may be good after all :-)

get well soon

love satchi

hi janine,
good news will come soon! let's keep positive and open to all outcomes :-)

love satchi

awwww...

love satchi

hi wowzers
this is a great question--I never even thought of this when I started my phd!!!

---while it is a good idea to have some idea of your external at the beginning of the phd, it is also worthwhile remembering that your research will probably go through some development and EVOLVE (you might achieve a breakthrough--and make some one-of-a-kind-state-of-the-art discovery!!!) and then your thought-of-external-at-the-start may not be relevant at that point :-)

I did not pick my examiners, I left it to my supervisor. While the viva is important, I also trust that she will not pick someone who will fail me :-p :-)

love satchi

congratulations!!!
love satchi

hi Reenie
thanks for your tip! When I practiced the hazard perception, I didn't feel sick, I didn't feel like vomitting. I didn't get great scores either, when I practiced, but I thought I could scrape through.

The camera on one of the clips went through a cattle grid--and the screen looked like it was shaking. By then I was feeling really sick. I did click at the sheep but probably not enough to score points.

You're right about a definite knack to clicking at the right timings. It is more like a computer game than real time driving! I'll have to practice more.

love satchi

hi julianbeadict1983
I think it is difficult to believe that people would misuse other people's username to create an account..and post online pretending to be them. Because we usually keep our passwords to ourselves?

Ian (Mackem_Beefy) has given very good advice. I don't know which thread it was, but if I were you, I'd make an effort to communicate with this girl and find out the truth from her. It's better to get this out in the open and deal with it, and be done with it :-)

Marriage is a long term thing and if there is mistrust in the beginning, it may be difficult in the long run.

I don't really understand this part about your parents speaking to her. Did they speak to her about this (someone using her account)? Or something else? oh yes -- if she had former boyfriend issues, you seriously need to ask yourself if you can deal with this and move forward.

Speak to her honestly, patiently, see what she says, see how you feel, trust your heart and gut feelings! hope everything turns out well for you (and her)

love satchi