its tricky, because you know being a cultural girl my inlaws in zambia are starting to worry. they want a baby, I want a PhD.

The PhD is 4yrs long. I dont know why, my sup said that PhDs are now herding towards 4yrs to give students more time to write up.

Anyways, I am 27 now so will be 31 by the time I finish.So I thought second yr is a good time to tell my sup I am pregnant. Ofcourse I will not take too much time off the program. My husband will take time off work and then we see from there. (Got it all planned out!)

You make a good point.

I think I often stand up for the marginalised because I was too at one point in my life, until I thought you know what I am not going to have it anymore and I stood up for myself.

I dont mean to seek an audience, because I am long done feeling sorry for myself. I was bulled in skool, and God help me will not live to see my child go thru the same. When I have one of course , my be 2yrs into my PhD (fingers crossed)

Smilodon

A PhD must be one life changing experience. Have you read the threads about good supervisor/bad supervisor.

I wonder which one some of us will be if we take the academia route

Anyways I think there is enough good pple in the world to cancell all the bad ones out

I have been married three successful years because I have mastered the power of the spoken word.
its not what you say but how you say that matters most

I think pple of with outstanding academic record ie phd students, should not reduce themselves to name calling.

make your point fair and square.

BADHAIRCUT

Its allowed to be angry but do it with tact.

I Guess the word 'offending' has a new meaning

Badhaircut

WAY OUT OF LINE

That would be nice, I get all to defensive sometimes and I apologise.

Would love to make you a sadza meal, as long as you go to the gym after.

I think I have sympathy for what you are saying, the problem is that were are posting at the same time and so I put up my hands I misunderstood you completely.

Anyway, I can only speak for my nation, we work for every thing that we get.

Speaking of patience , i was a bit statled when I read your post because I wondered if I had given you my name.
I am called Patience Simuzosha

WELL JUST READ YOUR LAST POST.

and for those who dont know my natinality I am zimbabwean.

I am not too eager about discussing what zimbabweans think abt the west. I am jus one of them and not representative of the whole country.
There was a time when the britsh pound and the zim dollar were 1:1 now one as to 200 million, so I agree we had our good times and we lived better than most westerners. the house, the servant the works as a mere cicil servant.
But contrary to the posted suggetsion, most zimbabweans never even wanted to hear of immagrating to the uk, because they knew that life wasnt as easy here.

I have been here 6 yrs and I know as such

Smilodon

I dont get it, are you tyring to imply that I am suggesting that I have the same 'unreasonable' mentality that the african you spoke to has.
I THINK WHILE THEY MAYBE GENERALISATIONS ABT THE WEST, THE SAME MAY APPLY ABT AFRICANS

well to answer to your point about answering to this post three months late - I am new to the forum maybe two or three weeks and its not evry thread that I go to.

Now lets not add insult to injury and irritate each other here.
If you understand any part of the english language you would have figured out that my main point is:

If you think its a silly post - THEN DONT REPLY.
WHY REPLY JUST TO INSULT!!!!

While I may have made your point for you, I disagree taht I was rude in anyway

I REST MY CASE - TRAIL DISMISSED DUE TO LACK FEELINGS ON THE FORUM

well i think you find out about your college as soon as you meet all your requirements for your possition, i.e if you didn t have funding have you now got it, if you are funding yourself do you have enough money, if your offer is conditional have you made the grades etc.
I guess if all your things are in order it should be as soon as possible.

Just making sadza now for the hubby. its true its made my weight, well let me not go there