======= Date Modified 16 Sep 2008 16:01:21 =======
PHLEAZZZZ



we are digressing here from the main THEME...which is that I am the winner;-) ....so H, rubyW and 404 let us focus on my glorious victory



and Tricky, if frocks do not work for you we can figure out some other outfit :-)

i think professional jealousy is much more prevalent in academia than you imagine....some v famous reseacher once said "in academia we can afford to be so petty because there is so little at stake"

anyway the point is do not worry too much about it, be focused on your job and try to stay as much away from this politics as possible

:-s NOT so Fast, i was hiding in the bushes, keeping close watch on creepers like you....Now get aside and let the best woman win

Cheers to all:-)

totally on board with you Graffalo

Gat

like olivia explained, u will need to find strength inside you to deal with the situation, you cannot wait till people around you become NICE enough to see something wrong is being done.

and Juno...I have been in as much of a male dominated environment as it can be.... I was an engineering student in South Asian univ.....trust me it won't get better than this. But my lesson was you need to prove your professional competence and self confidence.

First thing is to believe you are as good as any other person, and that you have the right to be there and be respected.

Gat
you need to feel powerful, trust me i have learned these things. I am by nature very shy, i hate to confront, and difficlut people and situations make my heart pound.
but you need to stop feeling helpless, and learn how to be firm. have you ever told this person in a firm (not angry) voice, looking in his eyes with confidence...that his behavior is unprofessional and you will take measures to make him realize this.

he is definetly obnoxious, but you need to show him YOU are done with his nonsense and borderline behavior. Make a plan, stage-wise in escalating order of measures...and act upon it with SELF-CONFIDENCE.

this is what you lack....TAKE CHARGE

you guys better let me win...or prepare for an extensive battle...
and 404...this is just the beginning, your emoticons not working

just admit it that i am the winner, and save yourself lot of trouble

i see all of you admitting to it in future, so why not now? why waste time?

Gat

only info i have about the situ is as per your account

But i think first of all you need to ask yourself a question. "how can a behavior of single individual, overshadows your life so much that you are practically dysfunctional"
Why?
if we search for solution of problems inside, we empower ourselves. maybe there is something in your atttitude towards yourself that encourages individuals like him to give you trouble.

it is important to be collegial but to project an image of self confidence and competence.

I am just not clear, I don't understand, how can you feel so helpless.

and one thing that is not wise on your part is to distance yourslef from the supervisor, as mentioned by someone else on this post as well.

AHA

seems i am the winner...

from now on, if no one replies in 6 days...the last one is the winner...

so I am the first-ever champion....
now let us see, if someone can beat my 6 day record...

and please note the emphasiz is on "now on"....so please...those of you who have revived this post in past...you guys and gals do not automatically qualify for "first ever champion" title....you guys were sleeping, you did not think of this idea....so this is how i win this,.....i have copy rights to this first ever champion title....aka 1e-C
now we have to look for 2e-C and the job is to beat 6 days lag.....like make it 7 days:-s

======= Date Modified 12 Sep 2008 03:39:13 =======
I need to know following information

Am I eligible for a PhD in USA (yes qualification-wise)

What preparations I need to do to get into PhD program (GMAT, toefl, generally application preparation takes about a year, including your search for right programs)


Any good schools in West coast (univ of california berkeley....but go online and look for phd rankings,...)



What would be timeline to get into and complete PhD program (application prep= 1 yr, you apply in dec-jan, decisions are made by next may june, classes start in aug, ......total completion time 4-6 yrs...)



What would be the cost and how I could afford it or may be get schlorship if possible (scholarship/assistanceship, no one does phd from out of pocket, and if univ is not giving you scholarship, it means they are politely/practically rejecting you,.......... scholarship covers tuition and living expenses..but is hand to mouth)



i hope i answered your questions....do your own online search....

wao
so u have the basic strength or let me say key strength
ability to dig deeper....here you go

and timing issues...like deadlines or spending too much time, can you set reminders for your self...and keep tallying your amount of time spent...with orgiginal time tagets
i mean if you become more conscious about your tendency to get over involved, it may help, eg if you would often stop yourslef and check whether you have spent too much time, and whether you need to move on, do you think it will help

wao
so u have the basic strength or let me say key strength
ability to dig deeper....here you go

and timing issues...like deadlines or spending too much time, can you set reminders for your self...and keep tallying your amount of time spent...with orgiginal time tagets
i mean if you become more conscious about your tendency to get over involved, it may help, eg if you would often stop yourslef and check whether you have spent too much time, and whether you need to move on, do you think it will help

Sabrina

i hope you are feeling better now... see you 'r on your way to gaining back your confidence and strength in life
wao, you seem like an incredibly wonderful person, thanking e one individually, what a genuine, warm and sincere person you are. I have observed people who appreciate life and people, they are often too hard on themselves
You are wonderful because even in your own ordeal, you worry about how it would impact others....which makes you more stressed
see you already have friends here
PhD is tough, life is tough, but you dont need to be tough on yourself

we all are here, whenevr you need us...


(and one more thing, it is these life rocking moments that we realize what life is actually about, and we learn about ourselves and life, things we would have never learned otherwise.. it makes you deeper and solid..... i think you haven't lived a life, if you have never been through these shaking moments....these moments are the best teachers)

pc_geek

you sound to strike a chord here, you have said v important thing v simply

phd is a very challenging undertaking which will expose you to many faces of yourself
and more than intelligence it is the inetrnal strength that will make us overcome whatever is that holding us back.

i see, thanks for explaining

i am just curious, but obviously you will have certain advantages as well, i mean do you think you excel in certain way from your other colleagues. what is your area of research?