i will try not to use these........... but can't promise, old habit

Hi TJ ....just checking with you..............how r u doing?

I hope things are bit better.

two ways of handling any interpersonal issues......from our own end....or from looking at others end............ie a natural/easier way or a smarter/effective way. Saying you are not doing PhD anymore....naaaaa....i dont think so....but olivia and smildon have given you the best advice......people management skills are a sign of emotional and professional maturity... people often feel threatened when they perceive us to be different...as olivia all it would take is small genstures of inetrest....but of course there will be one or two individuals who will continue to be irrational despite your efforts ( :) i hope yr boss does not prove to be one of those)... Good luck.......

TJ.......as advised to you by others....if someone just leaves you at the onset of something that is important for you (in this case yr phd)....and instead of supporting you cause you a distress.......think about it ....??? is this person good for u...life is tough...it will always TEST you....what if you had gone back...let us say married her.....she still had left you...in some other TEST............if other person is not willing to acknowledge you worth.....u have to do it for yourslef........HANG IN THERE....try to make new friends.....I PROMISE it wull get better.....u will have UPS and DOWN...one day you will see the sunshine outside the other u wont....but u can do it...and try o focus on work....set small goals..achieve them..u will feel better....try to find a faculty member who can motivate you for work........and again....think abt three or four years down the lane....LIFE will be much better

maybe you can communicate them the situation, and see if they are willing to wait. The situation will not be clear until you speak with the University. You can on the other hand, also contact the prospective university and try to find out by telling them the situation if they are considering you or how high you are on that list. when i was getting interviewed, th hiring faculty was giving me v positive signals and had said that before making any decision i should check with them......so if you are in the interview stage....talk to them, if they want you they will give you some indication....(ofcourse i am speaking from my experience in USA)

Hang in there

sorry i meant ASTROLOGY in its own right is v complex topic.....

hey olivia.....so how far your beliefs in astrology go.....

OB is organizational behavior.....(its pyschology of workplace)

and astrology has got nothing to do with OB ....its my side kick ;)....western astrologers are very fond of psychology...you will be surprised to find that how many astrolgers are very educated and have backgrounds in psychology......well psychology in it own right is a very complex topic.....if you ever get a chance read....Supernature and beyond supernature by an eminent biologist by lyall watson.....

the lonliness question that you are asking.....it obviously reflect our basic "need for attachment"........for relationships for friends.......I am doing PhD in OB but i am amatuer astrolger too ...;).....and with that knowledge i think people have different emotional makeups...and tolerance/need for isolation....some people are just by design more independent and less conscious of relatinships and attachments and some are just lost without significant relationships.......and with pressures of Phd (specially if you away from home)... it is quite possible to become more conscious of these needs

i hope you get better......

and then try to build contacts in those conferences......this is i guess only way you can build contacts with the US researcher......for example, last visitor to our department said that (she is an eminent researcher) that she is working with various international researchers who meet with her in conferences...

my apologies...what do you mean by the terms "connect to"....i mean obviously....as far as faculty of your university is concerned you do not have a choice.....but in terms of conferences....it depends which conferences you are attending, chances of interacting with US people , i believe will be higher in A-type conferences... For example, for management, in the USA the conference by Academy of Management is a high profile event. If you are in Europe, you need to at least go once in a high profile (i mean where A quality papers are being presented)

thanks
i hope i can make some changes....good i mean

well i talk more with one of the professors....i plan to meet him this week.....another faculty memeber had informally told me that ppl are not happy bcz i dont frequently interact with faculty and ask them about whats going on......he has given me a project to work on.....

i mean hard work does not seem to be enough....my concern is as my faculty...isn't it there responsibility to give me some projects....after all in my course wok they said i have shown exxceptional peformance....why i need to chit chat and sit their rooms to get projects???....but again there is no point in whining.....i have to do so...therefore i needed some advice.....and thanks for e one's input