Maybe he's a sock

*casts a suspicious glance around the forum*

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just been out with the dog and now soaked through yuk! I spent yesterday helping hubby with his PhD - which is good for me because if he gets to be Dr. then it means I feel I can use the title too - which then gives me motivation to finish mine! I'm helping him again today. He's going to help me with finding government stats for mine though (he's a civil servant) so it works out well!

Make sure you PILOT the online one!

FFS - I am off the forum for 2 days and I miss a trolling incident :-s

KB - stop trying to enslave men ;-)

On a serious note, hope the situation sorts itself out. Maybe make a statement in front of the whole group about how you aren't dating at all because of the PhD? that might make him feel less personally rejected.

Thank you!

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I have been taught to be VERY wary of these situations. As Satchi says, check with your co-authors first. Also, be aware that not all academics are nicey nicey, there may well be a chance that she steals your research ideas - and as a more experienced researcher, possibly with the help of Research assistants, she could replicate and publish your research before you had a chance to intervene. It is also VERY likely that she will asked to be added as a co-author for doing such work, so just be careful and make sure expectations are clear. Its worth sticking on a (C) symbol on your work before sending e.g. "(c) Sneaks" and copying in someone else to the email, so there is a clear email trail if anything i.e co-authorship, intellectual property rights, get disputed.

haha, I'm just about to publish from my thesis. My 1st sup is going on it - and deserves to, she has obviously helped me with the research and has restructured the writing for the publication. My other sup is also going on it - he has done NOTHING, I don't even think he knew what my research was about! but its political so I have to put up with it. I'm hoping I will be invited to be on any publications he does at some stage, and if not, I tend to live by "don't burn your bridges" in terms of networking!

hello all!

I had a REALLY lazy day yesterday, I tidied up my living room, sent 1 email! and watched "he's just not that into you" which was nice. I feel a bit more relaxed now. I also had my first glass(es) of wine for 2 years last night, and as a result got mashed out of my head on half a bottle before 7pm :$

I'm feeling quite motivated at the mo - one of those rare periods in the PhD. I showed my work to my (usually harsh) supervisor - the one in industry, and he really liked it! Which I can't quite believe, and everything else seems to be going well. However, I often have these 'feel good' times and take a week or so off for some reason, and then it all crumbles around my head when I start missing deadlines again - so must crack on and actually get stuff done, not take a week off!

My goal for today - finish the stupid analysis that I've been doing all week.

I still have about 10 to do, so really need these done by weds next week!

Aw don't stress bigmistake! I've had LOADS of things like this. I ignored my gut instinct in my 1st year and was persuaded out of interviewing a separate population by my supervisor at the time. It would have really added to my research and I should have ignored her, and now she realises that too, but now its too late - so will have to make the best of what i've got! I still get really annoyed about it though!

I've also had interviews not record and miss hours of good material, I've had interviews corrupt before I could transcribe, so I've just had to slog away and get more participants.

As others have said, just make sure you learn from it and double check everything next time. Could you put the questionnaire online? - that may help ensure all data is collected

I have been thinking of trying as well, although I don't think its a great idea to do it whilst writing up. I would rather get that stage in my life finished, completely out of the way and then move on to the next stage. My supervisor currently has 2 other supervisees that that have had babies while writing up, they are on their 8th and 9th year of their PhDs - I don't want mine to drag out like that.

For me, there is a real cost issue as well. My hubs could JUST about afford to look after the mortgage etc if I can't get work after my PhD, but with a baby as well - I don't know if we could afford that!

If it were me, I would go ahead and try AFTER the writing up, otherwise you are going to have the damn thesis hanging over your head as ANOTHER stressor when your baby is screaming its head off!

:-):-):-):-) well done!

Well done everyone, you have all been super productive! I've had 2 meetings, one with my sup and then one with both my sups. It all went well! and my 2nd sup likes my paper - I thought he was going to come out with LOADS of issues that neither me nor my 1st sup would like, but he only came up with 1 - so woop woop! (up)

I'm off for 2 meetings today, so won't be doing much!

Tomorrow I'm out all day for more non-phd boring stuff at uni.

I'm fatter - in fact I've just tried a pair of trousers on that fitted (with room) in january and now I can't even get the buttons to meet :$ I WILL be losing half a stone in the next 2 weeks!

I have lost ALL dress sense - I have NO style anymore. I wear joggers and a hoody at home - even days like today where its boiling. I wear black/grey clothes when i have to go to uni or look smart - so nobody notices me basically. I see people wearing fashionable clothes and feel sick! I have NO confidence to wear clothes like that anymore.

I am poor - I never have enough money, which has made me jealous of all my friends who went straight into work :-s This is part of the reason my wardrobe is so drab.

I too am developing a social anxiety disorder. I haven't left the house for 4 weeks now (apart from dog walks in the field behind the house). I'm due to go into my sponsoring company today and feeling quite nervous about the whole thing. I'm not used to seeing people! I will probably run home as soon as my meetings are over.

I am starting to resent my husband, because he hasn't finished his PhD yet and is talking of not bothering - so it feels like I won't be able to use my title when/if I get it, which is one of my motivators :-s

Good things - I've learnt how to work independently? (as if I didn't do this anyway!)