Despite his private life, Hilary's husband did a decent job when in office. If she's like him then I'd go for her.

Thanks for the update Sara. Our thoughts are with her.

I wrote my dissertation last year without EndNote, I'm writing my Lit Rev this year with it. It's an absolute god send because it manages the citations, formats the bibliography and automatically updates the house style according to whatever journal you are writing (or your uni stipulates). It also manages your reading list for you.

I've started the process of updating my dissertation into from last year into EndNote ahead of me writing a paper on it. I've found at least a dozen citation and referencing errors so far and I thought I tooth-combed it before I submitted it. So from me, it's a must and it won't take you long to put the Word references into EndNote.

I don't know, I really don't know. SPD sounds a bit extreme to me. Of the symptoms you mention I can probably hold my hand up to 2 or 3 of them, but that's because I'm naturally shy. Back to books again, this list reminds of those self-diagnosis medical books you consult when you've just sneezed, so you consult the list of symptoms and it basically tells you that you're probably going to be dead within 24 hours. In this regard, books are dangerous if they are taken too literally.

Your postings don't strike as someone who is asexual either. You do talk of love and kissing and making love (albeit several years down the line). I'm no doctor, but are you just a very shy person who has over-analysed the courtship process, by chance?

Sara, any news on Athina?

Hi Coastman, a long time since we spoke, how's it going?

Well, I've got to hand it to you (assuming you're not a WUM), you are impervious to every bit of advice offered on here and dismissive of any way of life other than your own. I guess there's simply no point me stating that observation is no substitute for experience.

All I can do is to wish you well in your search for this girl. I suspect it will be a long and ultimately fruitless quest given your very narrow and inflexible criteria.

One more point, I didn't call you a weirdo (it's not a term I would use for anyone), it was actually a term YOU used in an earlier post which I reproduced.

Two questions (to which I think I know the answers).
1)Have you ever had a girlfiend?
2)How do you reconcile casting judgments on those who are in relationships when you yourself have no experience other than your scientific theories read from books? (rather like someone who sits in the stands watching and decides how football should be played without ever having kicked a ball in their life).

Since you're into quotes, here’s one I found:
“I think perfectionism is based on the obsessive belief that if you run carefully enough, hitting each stepping-stone just right, you won't have to die. The truth is that you will die anyway and that a lot of people who aren't even looking at their feet are going to do a whole lot better than you, and have a lot more fun while they're doing it”.--Anne Lamott (Bird by Bird)

14) British women are among the most beautiful he’s ever seen but none of them would make a “potential virtuous wife”.

15) People from the Southern USA make him “puke”.

16) Married couples cease having sex after they have had their children.

18) “Love should be the basis of any marriage”, or should it? Emotions “such as falling in and out of love are not as important as commitment”.

19) Is looking for “data” on long-distance PhD relationships.

20) Can’t stand gay males as they are scary and certainly wouldn’t tolerate a gay son.

21) And, to conclude “I would have thought that because you (PhD students) were intellectuals” you “should have discovered something more interesting than sex".

The decision is yours!

8) Would rather remain a bachelor than use internet-dating.

9) A bar is the worst ever place for finding a spouse because good girls/boys don't go to bars alone at night, do they?

10) “Try before you buy” is a “rubbish approach”.

11) Two years is the recommended time for courtship such that he would not kiss any woman he wasn’t married to until the “2 year process” is complete.

12) All PhD students are “bizarre”, except for Oxbridge students who are just “weirdos”.

13) There are virtually no Oxbridge students who believe in NSBM.

3) Would like to date her as if she was his little sister, then marry and then she could be like his mother.
4)Joined a Christian group (as someone who “strongly opposes religions”) and then pursues a girl who presumably doesn’t know he is a fraud. Moreover, doesn’t know which “denomination” she belongs to.
5)Said girl is aware of interest but the feeling isn’t reciprocated.
6)She doesn’t feel safe in “one-to-one” situations with him.
7)Suggests that Christianity is not as “far-fetched” as Islam or Judaism.

Okay, I've just read this long thread right through. For new viewers it's important to succinctly summarise what has been said. So, rather like "our Graham" from Blind Date, here's a recap of JRadetzky's views of women, life and homosexuals. Any interested girls who meet the strict criteria of points (1), (2) AND (3) apply here.

1)Not prepared to lower standards below anything less than a “top-notch, 22 yo-Oxbridge PhD student-NSBM-talented cook-family oriented-trilingual girl” . Would rather remain alone for the rest of his life than settle down for less.
2)Needs to girl-like, that is, “childish, naive and unthreatening” as grown women are threatening because they want to “mate”.

DanB just sent me an email on this, hence an unscheduled return to the board for me. Sara, please pass on my best wishes to her.

Not gonna happen H.

I should take a break from the board for awhile.

Have a good Christmas all..

In the land of the blind, the one eyed man is King.