At least that is what it has felt like this week. Maybe I will wake up tomorrow morning and see it all differently.

Thank you Dr Corinne. The thing I am trying to get across is that I don't think there is anything to lose because we already are effectively cut off. For example - the advisor who is best friends with the second supervisor ignores me when I say hi and looks the other way in the corridor.

What MORE do I have to lose??

Thankfully, I have a few things in my favour. I have good data that will go in good publications and I have other connections / possible post doc routes. I will stay in academia. Also, thankfully, my main supervisor - who doesn't actually give input but who I meet with and is copied in on all emails - is invested in me and will write me an excellent reference. I do not want to lose this. Perhaps I should raise my concerns with her rather than just turning up and saying I can't do this anymore - what am I seriously getting from it. Maybe she can offer some more suggestions. Or maybe she will even say - OK, we have tried - let's make the change and I will continue to supervise you alone. I guess I will raise it with her and see what the outcome is, if I am still undecided by the time we meet in 2 weeks.

I think I am finding it difficult to stand because I am not gaining from it but they are. What is the point in that in a student-supervisor relationship?

Pjlu - what you say makes sense to me. It is just it feels that this situation has gone so far and it asthough I am being mis-used and stand nothing to lose by ending it here.

Hello everyone

Thank you - really. I am still undecided on what to do. I feel very much like cutting my losses now and moving on. I do not think that the input I will get over the next year on will be worth all this (i.e., the lack of mutual trust and respect that is so evident). And I am not sure that cutting loose would actually do me any further harm. As it is, for example, I wouldn't dream of asking either of those two supervisors for a reference. I don't think if they were sitting on a panel and I applied for a grant etc they would award it me (and I don't plan to be in that situation for that reason). So, my point is, I do not really feel I have much to lose if I cut my losses and say to the new main supervisor: look, I tried this set up where we don't meet and only correspond on drafts, and it hasn't worked for me. I think it would be wiser now for me to request a complete supervisory change - i.e., no longer have those two as supervisors.

What do I have to gain? Self respect I suppose. It feels ghastly to know that you are producing pretty high quality work for others to put their names on - others who you have lost all respect for (hence the original request for change). If there was something to gain - e.g., their input was actually really good and helped the quality greatly - I might be willing to make the sacrifice. But as it is - the current situation feels like a joke - and the joke is all on me.

I will of course get the current paper submitted as planned. But for the future - this final year - those final two papers. I think cutting losses might be best now. What do I really have to lose?

It's so helpful to be able to put it out on this forum and get your input.

Good point.

Thank you everyone - so helpful to have this additional source of advice. I will be thinking about all this before making any decisions. May post again and let you know what happened. ToL, no if they are no longer supervisors I certainly won't include them as co-authors. They haven't in been involved in any substantive aspect of the two studies - apart from approving the study protocols and correcting a few typos. If they leave the team then this will no longer be relevant as they won't be commenting on early drafts - the new supervisor/s will be coauthor/s instead.

I have a feeling Lewlyn is a professional company of some kind and therefore quite indiscriminate about these things...

I must say that often these books can sort of brainwash you into a particular view of being a PhD student that isn't healthy. I say that from experience of having read lots of them in my first year and only now in my third year realising that so much of what I read was utter rubbish. Written by people who had made it through and seemed to want to instill fear and create or perpetuate some sort of PhD student myth. Just my view and I cannot comment on those newlease has recommended. Some are more helpful than others - the more practical kind.

I came across this recently on the Yale website (not my university!) and found it super helpful:

There is some really useful and interesting stuff in it. For example: "Nothing elicits dominant behavior like subservient behavior. Expect and demand to be treated like a colleague." If I'd read that before I'd started, I'd have been a much happier PhD bunny!

The joys of reflection! Having replied and re-read my first paragraph here, I am tempted to just make the changes. After all, if they are as menial as I suggest then what is the problem? I think it is just a matter of having requested not to be supervised by this individual because of a serious issue makes one feel heck, why do I have to change a word because you want it? And yes, that specific thing can be risen above : )

But with regard to my second point - going forward is this going to work... i.e., where there is a need to make changes and decisions about more substantive points. Any thoughts?

Thanks pm133. I think I differ on this (writing it as a post on this forum helped me to reflect). I think since these are not substantive issues and I am the main author I have last say and will make the changes I see fit. For example, wording of a sentence, inclusion of a particular clause. These are fairly menial issues that can be debated back and forth. In fact, one or two changes were things that a different co-author had changed from what I originally had on an earlier version of a manuscript. It is a matter of preference you could say. And as first author, I believe I get the final say on such.

On earlier drafts where substantive issues are raised - that is different. And this experience leads me to think that maybe going forward this is not going to work - co-authoring my final two papers that is. I think that we will need to be going back and forth and discussing (since I am not the type to blindly implement changes that I disagree with - I need to be persuaded if I feel strongly about a matter). So I think that I am going to request a full change in supervision. I will think about this more before coming to a final decision. It is just that it has now become apparent that if it is tricky collaborating in this situation on a paper that was basically in its final stages and almost ready for submission, how is it going to be with a brand new piece of writing in its earlier stages? Surely communication and trust are key to collaboration (and co-authorship and supervision). And an individual cannot simply rise above and supply those things - they must be mutually present.

Thoughts?

Hello there

This query is for seasoned PhD students/post docs on this forum.

There were some issues with my supervision, which resulted me in requesting a change in supervision - I requested to be supervised by the same supervisors all but the main one - as this is where the issue was. Anyway, long story short - the co-supervisor said that she would only continue to supervise if the main one stayed on. So the situation now is - I have a new main supervisor who acts as a sort of point of contact and I meet with, but not to discuss the intellectual content of the PhD as such. Then I have two co-supervisors (the old main supervisor and co-supervisor) who I no longer meet with and our only contact is when I send them a draft and they comment on it, prior to journal submission. They are then included as co-authors. This was the new procedure agreed by all - and instigated by the new main supervisor (who has no input herself in the drafts but is copied in on all emails).

The problem arises that there are some comments that I do not necessarily agree with/want to address - but there is now no forum for discussion. If I were to email and begin a discussion that would take me back to the original problem - having to interact in a sour relationship that does not work. So do I address those that can be addressed and leave those that I do not agree with and submit the manuscript? The comments not substantive and I am first author.

It would be useful to get some advice on here.

Tudor

Beware of scammers on this website by the way...

I don't think you need a proposal at this stage. Dropping a friendly email is fine. It may be more useful to say what interests you and ask what their interests are and come up with something jointly. That is unless you already have the idea you want to pursue. In which case, by all means, put it in proposal form and attach it to your email.

I agree too. This isn't too early to start making contact. Good luck!

Sounds like great idea! I'd familiarise myself with the background of the project a little (not too much - that is what the first year is for lol!) and just be very interested - ask the questions that come into your head when you are there as well as just pre-preparing some. I think the main thing that will impress them about you as a potential student is your enthusiasm and interest in the area. Doing what you've suggested is a great way to demonstrate this.