Hi LuluStar,
Think I may be able to confirm some of your queries:
1) Yes. Yes. Good sign that you appear to have figured things out for yourself.
2) Yes, exactly.
3) Of course you do. Ideally things should be egalitarian to a degree.
4) Can't use it, know no-one that does, but probably have a book or two on the subject that I'll personally never get around to reading, so you can. PM me to discuss this matter further.
Thanks.