I have developed a crush on my friend who lives with his girlfriend of several years ; however he is becoming increasingly flirtatious towards me. I need to stop these feelings from developing before I get drunk and do something stupid. But how?!

Help!!

Think of him as having genital herpes and lice?

Aargh!! Thanks H. Off him already

I understand you DJWickid. After my fellow PhD student crush, now it is an undergarduate guy (he was one of my participants in an experiment, then he contacted me for further advice). I am 5 years older than him but mst importantly... he is an undergrad and hence I should not dare to do anything with him! But he is really sweet! I always liked older guys but he is gorgeous and so clever (he got a bonus in the experiment ). Why do we always find the wrong men/boys?

Would anyone dare to date an undergrad? Sorry DJWickid, this is your post but maybe we can share our pain . Well actually yours is not a problem at all. The guy has a girlfriend but since he is flirtatious with you, maybe she is not the ONE for him and he is old enough (I suppose) to change his mind and make his own decisions. If he is not married yet... it is not unenthical at all. We all try in different relationships until we find the ONE! In my case I dont think that a 22 year old boy is the one, I just feel highly attracted by him! He is really GORGEOUS! Am I a pedofile? Or perverted?

Age shouldn't matter

SixKitten is right - so long as it is legal, age shouldn't matter.

I had a friend who when she was 19 went out with a 14 year old - that was wrong. He was underage and what she did was against the law and kinda creepy, but they broke up after 6 months. But she is now 30 and he would be 25 - nothing wrong with that in my book.

No absolutely nothing wrong as long as its legal. I went out with someone who was significantly younger than me once (by 8 years) but he was really mature - in fact he was the 'sensible' one in the relationship - and the only reason we split up was because we lived so far apart (in different continents in fact!). Age never came into the relationship at all. My new crush is 11 years older than me, and I dont normally fall for the older man!

I would date an undergrad if I really liked them.. Like the other guys say it's legal and so not a problem

Even if it was your student..?

We can date undergrads? really?!! wow all those cute young guys tee hee x

I find most UGs really immature or is that just in Sheffield?

I got off with my ex at the weekend. Now I've changed my crush and I'm in lust with him again

lool djwickid tell us more about ur ex seems i missed all the goss! i met mine again but i dont think we'll be getting back together!

H, most UGs are just cheeky or plain rude .. some are damn cute tho!