I know that I'm supposed not to be here, but I get so LONELY! Just heard footsteps upstairs - is that you Maria_Z? There's noone else in!
Anyway, when I got married, we didn't tell anyone they were coming to a wedding, just invited them to a party. That way even family couldn't interfere. Might be too late for you H, but I'd recommend it to everyone else (unless, of course, daddy's paying)