This is not unusual, but that doesn't mean it's not a problem. Tell your supervisor you are unhappy and confused. Tell her that you need to have some degree of control of your own PhD and you need to both agree on a plan of work. (Ideally work out want you want to do first and argue strongly for that.) If you can't come to an agreement and feel your supervisor is to blame, go and see the student advisor or head of department and express your concerns - it is possible to change to a different supervisor.