Hello everyone.
I finished my phd funding in december 2019.
since then covid + plus having a child (january 2021)...
Before my due date i sent all my thesis to my supervisor. Since then I had a licence and she reviewed two chapters; asked me to rewrite them (almost half of the thesis) and so I did, with a lot of family help with my baby...
In the end of July I sent her my whole thesis again with the reviewd chapters, and also an introduction.
She's now reading my whole thesis and reviewing the chapters i have already reviewd! With new information! Asking me to do more and more work! I cannot and never will have a perfect thesis. I am unemployed (I am looking for a job), I have a baby, the thesis is becoming an issue between me and my husband... My friends are telling that I have to say that at a certain point, my thesis is done, wether she keeps reviewing the review of the of the review of the review... My supervisor is very demanding and not much into dialogue. Any suggestions?

Thank you everyone for your answers. This forum keeps helping me a lot!

Hello everyone. I have an abstract to send until tomorrow to a call for papers of an international conference. They ask for an abstract of 500-word maximum. I've written 220 and I am quite happy about it. Do you think for them might be too short? Sorry for the eventually silly question...
Thanks!

Hey everyone!
I am in my third year of PhD in the area of Social Sciences.

I'd like to send some paper proposals to at least three conferences soon (two of them are in my country). The thing is: it is ok to repeat the material in two of the conferences? I am recently thinking about this... Since I cannot produce new ideas all the time - and I'm still in the beginning of my writing, I would have to - at least partially - repeat myself.
What do you think of this?
What are your suggestions?
Thank you!

Hello. I was asked to be a co-author in a paper in the social sciences area. The thing is, even if this persons work is admirable, Im in the middle of my PhD and I haven't published anything myself about my work in progress (I present it in conferences but publishing is a step I want to make after or when I'm almost finishing my thesis). I'd like to make a first paper on my research without co-authors, a paper with my name only and my data only. Is there a way to kindly explain this? I'd love a colaboration for sure...But later, after I finish and publish on my own. Am i losing an opportunity? I'm in the middle of a confidence crisis and I think it would be important for me to publish on my own to value and share to the world and academia the particular work and thoughts I am working on. I appreciate your advise. Thanks.

Hey there! Thank you for your answers. I find this forum a great help and I feel better observing that the issues I am having are similar than other peoples too! I will continue to work with her and I actually have to learn how to be more assertive, in fact. Thank you for the suggestions Tudor_Queen. Even if she does help and she has some good suggestions and accurate observations (some are not), the tone is demanding like I said before: "You HAVE to write about this" instead of a suggestion or an open discussion (I do have? Or I could possibly think of do it ...or could we discuss it?). "Don't you forget that your thesis is about THIS" (I know what my thesis is about thank you. Since I've done all my research I know what is my thesis about. And it is supposed to be mine. My thesis is in construction and is dynamic and still being written....) "You have to stop doing this until the end of this month and start doing THAT!" (I know or I should know how to organize my time...) I actually work a lot for my thesis and I have a very creative vein that I feel like I am losing because of these demanding which I am incapable to argue with. (My thesis is on social sciences) I have a meeting today. Let's see what happens....

Hello. Thank you for your kind responses. Inside the uni, there is no one I can talk to, specially because she is the most influent person inside my PhD. I do talk with my coleagues which are great and very comprehensive. I cannot change my supervisor, specially now that I am in my third year of research. Yes, she is particularly unpleasent in her e-mails, more than she is in person. So my scenario at the moment is: this is the person I have to work with. I do have, anyway, to find the tools to be assertive, to do not feel down with the negative and super critical feedback and specially to have a way to gain control of my own research topics (which is very difficult when someone is so demanding and incapable of negotiating)... I just would like to know if someone had the same issues and how dealt with them. Thank you!

Hello everyone. Besides what I wrote in my previous thread, I have these issues with my PhD advisor. She is very bossy, demanding and hyper critical. She is a very difficult person to work with (I am not the only one) and is totally controlling of what I write or do. Recently she send me an e-mail saying "you have to do write about this" and "you have to write about that", in a very demanding tone. I don't always agree with her but she is very difficult to argue with. I get very anxious and nervous. Until know I reacted in a very passive way but I'm losing the control of the contents of my own thesis... If this continues like this, my thesis won't be really mine. She seems to be doubting me all the time, accusing me of not reading what she demands (which is not true) and demanding the next steps of my research. I'm starting to feel very low about it. I need help how to deal with this...

Hey everyone. First of all, I must say I'm in my third year of PhD and totally obsessed with it (I fall asleep thinking about it, I wake up at 4 am with my heart beating fast thinking about it and I wake up in the morning thinking abou it). I do have a social and love life, I do sports and therapy as well. Anyway, my biggest problem at the moment is that I have really low self esteem in academia. I'm very tense all the time, have a lot of issues in moments with evaluations and internal presentations we have to do from time to time (I have a lot of anxiety symptoms during them). But since the last year, It got worst. I started feeling very self conscious of my work and myself. I started to do comparisons of my work to others (everytime someone appears with similar topics I just feel like giving up) and started to feel very bad about my work. Specially, I started to feel very anxious with people who work similar topics but are let's say senior researchers. I started to imagine that they would think that I "don't deserve to to research in my field" and "it is not original" so I developed these thoughts that are persecuting my whole work. So I decided to hide from these people and the academic world, so that they don't find me and judge me and my work. I know rationally It probably wouldn't happen but I feel like that. I also started to work at home since I feel very stressed and very self conscious when I'm in the university (and sometimes even in the street). I feel I should introduce myself to these people, present my work, feel more open and humble, and undertake my place in the academic world but I simply feel I can't. While I'm hiding, Im sabotaging my work and the possibilities of it being known... I need help. Thanks.