Hi everyone!

I am in the same soon to submit boat, and just wanted to share that I read somewhere that the anxiety is a very good sign, sign that unknown territory is being explored. Research is about discovering, therefore, entering the unknown, and that may come with some nervousness. Only good theses leave in the writter that feeling!

Going back to work now! ;-)

See you all in the other side, post passed VIVA!

Thank you so much.

He is my only supervisor, and I am fond of him. He also does not seem like that kind of guy, but maybe they never do. So I don't know if this is a general trend. But I will ask another lovely girl under his supervision. And being there it really doesn't feel like harassment, just part of natural course of action or communicative act. So it never crossed my mind with clarity until yesterday. Everything is vague enough to have a double meaning. Or this is just my naivety or refusal in beliving it. And it would explain the absence of explanations for slowing me down.

I am to finish in the following couple of months (I am reviewing chapters) because ignoring the signs and making some psychological  pressure have worked so far (just demanded a little bit more effort on my behalf). I just needed to listen to another opinion, so that I can prepare in case the picture changes, to prepare for the worse and know were to go, or what to do. So I really appreciate yours.

I will keep on ignoring and pressing; and set the backup plans in action. I have never been in a similar situation, so just couldn't believe this reading of events. Thank you so much.

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I don't even know how to start, because it is for me an unimaginable situation. I am about to finish my PhD. My supervisor has been creating some difficulties, slowing my pace down. I have asked him many times before why, I have explained that for financial reasons I wish to finish ASAP and the forth. So I don't understanding why he is doing it. He is a young (40's I think) married man, father of two, and we get along fine, I think. We had a very polite professional relationship, but I got the vibe that he wanted it to be more personal. So we know discuss a little bit about conferences that we attend, or life in general. So in this struggle to understand why he his not reviewing the work promptly, not wishing to publish promptly and so forth, I started putting a few pieces of the puzzle together.
There is this sexual vibe that I get from him, nothing wrong with that I think. But one year ago, for example, he scheduled a very late meeting, and mid-through closed the drapes and turned the light off (although it was night), and there was this sexual tension on his behalf that I only understood afterwards. I don't usually pay attention to the sexual side of professional relationships, more interested in intellectual conversations about work-related issues. And yesterday, he definitely made a simulation of oral sex with his hand, amidst a discussion of 'problems going away'. Not the first of this type of gestures (many people have called me naif because I do not attend to these sexual signs, sometimes on purpose as in this case). So I got worried. Is it possible that he is asking for sexual favours to see me through the PhD? I just can't believe it. I also can't economically afford much more delay. What should I do? Is this even possible? Am I reading the signs right? How can I be sure? Please help. Thank you.