My fiance keeps telling me that his flirty friend is a lesbian. She constantly emails him -- I've read them and they are flirty! She also calls him (at our home number) to ask him out, he replies: "sure, my gf and I are available for dinner", which gives me some relief. He keeps telling me she's is ok and nothing is going on. Am I being jealous for no reason here? How should I approach him about my insecurity and now jealousy? Am I imagining things here? Has anybody been in a similar situation?

I think you're OK with him (since he makes clear to this girl that he is not coming for dinner without you). This girl may fancy him, but thats just tough cos he's clearly happy with you.

I think blokes sometimes don't see when a girl is making a play for them - it's much easier for us to see when a girl is playing games.

Thanks! It is true we "see" when another girl has thoughts about our guy.

But my fear is that she will continue with the flirting and insinuating and 2 things may happen he will blow her off or fall for it and think he can get away with it.

Well, I've been a slightly similar boat (although the girl wasn't as blatant as yours), and I told him (nicely) I was a bit jealous. Things got better after that.

Sorry for the vagueness but I try not to talk too much about the people in my life. Is she likely to be aroung long-term?

Oh yes. He is a town official and she is a "supporter". I, of course, am always involved with all his political activities, but can't help feeling a little insecure. She works for a local non-profit agency. She is not pretty in my eyes, but at the very beginning when she started poking her nose supporting his campaign he said on a couple of occassions that she was nice and "decent looking" whatever that meant. I am very intuitive and can sense when something is veering in a different direction. In this case I think she thinks she can "convince" him to go out with him alone with the excuse of "planning" some new political or town activity. As I said he will always mention my name and involve me in any social event. Still, someday the opportunity may be they end up alone somewhere and she makes a move. He would never tell me because he knows I am very unforgiving (as far as being unfaithful goes) but I will find out anyway. Sorry for the long and detailed post.

see my post in the other thread. all the best.