Quote From Skig:
Honey_bee, I'd imagine that, as your sups have been aware of the difficulties faced, they'd take that into consideration and not provided you with a bad reference (although in the UK this is illegal so not sure where the law stands where you are).
Just to add, I think K22 has a point, if your husband has cheated on you before, there's a chance he may do it again. I'm not saying that he will, but it is likely that the trust between you two may have been affected and you both may wish to see a counsellor/couples therapist to work on your difficulties. I respect your decision to move closer to him, but as they say 'once bitten, twice shy'.
Whatever you decide, please make sure that you put yourself before anything else.
I didnt get you, sorry. What is illegal in UK ? I had quit my PhD after discussing my personal problems with my supervisor and he himself advised me to leave and stay with my husband for the sake of saving marriage. We all thought that that will help a bit and he advised me to join PhD later in the same state where we are. But I moved to another country as nothing seemed working those days. I applied here and my supervisors were happy to provide me with the references as, I have always been a very good student and hard working. In the first year of PhD itself I have published two first author papers and I was writing my third one when I quit.
I am so passionate in doing my research at the same time I struggle to balance my family life. My husband would noway move to the place where I am as, he is my priority, but I am not his priority. He called me back and I am happy for that, but I dont think he will leave anything for me as I have done.
