Have anyone has the solution to this problem. i would like to rebuilt my relationship with my PhD supervisor.

I had a very caring supervisor during my phd study, because i have a long term illness and i was enduring my pain and suffering to complete my study. i therefore have a lot of stress, physically and mentally, particularly in the second half of my study, and was very nervous and felt "running out of time" to complete all the objectives of the project. while by all mean i believe i was doing my job and the right things, i had not been put his personal feeling first and had upset him alot. he remembers this even after a whole year after i completed the experimental work, 8 months after the viva, 3 months after my thesis approved, and 1 months after my graduation.

having said that i have graduated, it has been extraordinarily difficulty to find a job. initially thought it is all about economy, and i am out completed by other better qualified candidates and over qualified for average job. i continue to improve myself. then again, i ask on my application to the potential employer to obtain references if i am invited to interview, i then start to have interviews. it then starts to have interview questions totally out of context, then i realise something wrong about supervisor's reference.

then i hope to talk to him and find a solution, sadly, he denies initially but eventually i get it later on that he have not given me any good reference. in his words, he said nothing bad against me neither. no one can turn the clock back and it is bygone. i do not see any point of crying (although i do feel so) but would like to find a solution and rebuilt our supervisor and pupil relationship, and/or be more helpful to my career development, independently from him.

advice please.