I have experienced a total nervous breakdown. I am doing a science phd and created a bad situation for myself in my work environment. I developed romantic feelings for this girl in my lab and she did not feel the same way. Needless to say it has created tension between us. (Never fall for co-workers.) I can not seem to get any of my experiments to work. I understand the literature and have a good theoretical knowledge but my lab skills are not that good. I am currently in my 3rd year of study and have completely fallen apart. I am completely afraid of failure and afraid of working with other people.

I am currently on leave to address these issues. I am getting professional help. Does anyone have any advice for me to get over my fear of working with others and my fear of failure? Also, how do I get over this girl?

Thank you.