Signup date: 18 Aug 2014 at 2:15pm
Last login: 20 Aug 2014 at 3:31pm
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Hey all,
Please bare with my english as it is not my native language.
Long backstory short: we used to study together for our masters degree, both in interaction design. We had several projects together and we really enjoyed each others company. We lost contact but since a year ago, we reconnected and started hanging out, even though it has not been much (Six times during almost a year). We seemed to always enjoy each others company, often resulting in lots of laughs and feeling relaxed and being ourselves. We exchanged christmas gifts, had dinner at each others houses (I did all the cooking), and I bought her a birthday gift that she quoted saying "I don't like it, I _love_ it". Every time we manage to see each other, she is ventilating about her work, her colleagues, her boss and she enjoys hearing about everything of my work as an industry professional. Sadly, there have been certain moments where we had to postpone or cancel our plans since her PhD is consuming a lot of her free time.
However she seems to put friends in a certain "order". Sometimes she puts all attention on me but suddenly she enters a long period of "inactivity" even though I see that she is online on social medias. We used to talk a lot with each other, often long conversations into the night but that has suddenly stopped. Is it normal for me, as a "regular" guy to wonder if she is doing this to ignore me or is she just too focused on her work? For example: a "normal" person would just invite someone to hang out with their colleagues since they were going to the same event but she seemed always reluctant to do that. Is it that she prefers to prioritise colleagues ahead of me?
I understand and respect her choice and that her line of work requires much from her but I cannot help to feel constantly neglected by her.
Maybe I am just reading too much into this but I would love hear all your opinions!
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