Hello everyone,
I am so desperate
I will start my 3rd year soon. I didn't fully pass my upgrade.I did pass the viva, but the report was awful according to both examiner! (one of them my 2nd supervisor)
My primary thought its ok. So, the examiners wanted me to re-write my whole work and resubmit it.the problem is I am not having the right feedback
I've changed my second supervisor as the previous never help me and this one is not doing any better as he clearly says that he got his students as a priority (he is their primary) and he is not planning to meet/add anything. He suggested for me to get help from someone else (other labs) . As giving me feedback regarding work and thoughts or anything as my primary usually busy and whenever I receive anything from him usually about my English (pronunciation+writing everything except the science)
So, the supervision dilemma was from the 1st year , I really didn't have anyone and it starts to become overwhelming especially now because I am really frustrated about my upgrade. My Primary now is saying u couldn't write proper upgrade report how would you write a thesis? that went as a slap into my face! I thought you said its good in the 1st place?
Anyway I am re-writing my report now and almost finishing and I am planning to go to another lab as a visitor to continue my work there as there are experiments I have to modify and as I don't have much time so, I thought to contact other labs.
Then, my Primary said, if you go I will doubt that you will take a phD ? as you will don't have proper supervision and I am only going to meet you once a month (which actually the same now)
What do you recommend me to do? I feel like leaving? I cannot make a decision, too tired! the other lab is good and beneficial for me.

My situation is worst. I am starting my 3rd year and I still did not upgraded because of my writing and editing . I feel like quitting everyday . I am international , so i know the language is one of my weakest point so I cannot argue much .
He is so negative that makes me feel i wont get a phd . Work is fine but my writing/knowledge way behind as i used to read only papers to do my work/experiments but i am trying to get on track but,it is really hard especially cause i feel my supervisor feels that I am sort of a fool .
Just continue what you do and you will get through , it will take time to learn to be critical but you will be there . Or that what i hope at least to encourage myself:/

Thank you. I think I can try to do that. I will try to look for the counselling service.

Thank you for your reply. My supervisor only strict with money. However, I do have external funding my sponsor pay for attending conferences and this clear to him. If I ignore my supervisor as one incident and apply for it I will get it. I got worried as I thought what if they finish my funding then they have told me to pay extra money. I am paying international fees plus bench fees so there is no way my sponsor will pay one more month. That's why I am freaking out
About my lab member. Its not only me. One new RA they kept annoyed her and tell her boss stuff not true about her. They dig into her stuff and makes fun of her notes or her picture or even how she looks like.

I never thought about my way of approaching people, but you might be right in general I am a shy person so I am not chatty and only speak with them about work. I am trying to stop listening to them but sometimes they talk about me to my supervisor as they do with me. I don't always go to him to ask and this effect my confidence. My work is going fine. Just I cannot manage how people react as i get anxious whenever they tell me anything. I easily believe them even though I know I shouldn't and my supervisor always tell me If he has something he will tell me himself. I just cannot deal with these people anymore. I don't want to interact with them but i have t. This is the worst lab that I have been to but I don't know how can I separate my emotions and not having any reactions towards whatever they say.

Hello everyone,

I thought to tell you my story and see if any can advise as I am clueless.
I am international scholarship phD student and I am in the mid of my 2nd year. As any PhD student, my research progress goes ups and down. I struggle a lot during my 1st year. Since I came no one has treated me right. I always felt they only have accepted me to get some funding and with days this getting more obvious. They keeping ordering stuff with my grant number as I don't have access to my finance. When I ask to order something for my project my supervisor keep commenting that I just want to waste money. No one work in whatever I am doing and he is aware of that. for the 1st year I never have done anything related to my project it's only in my second year as I complain and I have changed supervision. Other staff member and phD students attend conferences without paying (the department pay for them) when I ask for that I have been told you can afford purchasing expensive stuff pay for yourself !!! . this from my primary supervisor. Then i never complain I just have asked the new other supervisor to send me to other labs as my current one not helping me she convince him and the new lab requires to travel and to have new accommodation he refuses to pay for it and they have used my bench fees to buy really expensive stuff and I got CC !!

My lab members bunch of bullies. If I ask a question as where is this thing ( they keep changing places for stuff) they will make a group and they will make it as big deal. They lie and always telling me negative stories when I go to see if what they have told me is ture from my supervisor(always wrong) they got upset by saying why you tell him as he tends to face them.
I wish to leave I am so depressed.
what do you think?
Thanks