I am so glad I found this forum. I am blessed (sarcasm intended) with one of those lovely advisors too who seems to think the PhD is the be all and end all of life. We all committed to this career and it was a choice we made. However, that does not mean that we are robots who have lost touch with reality. We have families (who I am forced to ignore!!!!!). We are not robots and that's how it seems our advisors treat us sometimes. I spend every waking hour of my day studying. How healthy can that be? And are we really productive? I am not a complainer, but I just have one life. And while I treasure scholarship, I am not about to let me be defined by the number of books I have read or the number of papers I have written!!! You wanna judge me... Go ahead. I have no qualms about admitting the truth... I am just human and refuse to become anything else.....