Tell us your story juno

I understand that what I feel for him is "wrong" and I am old enough to know the relationship supervisor-student and how it should be. But people very often have no choice in what they feel. But (luckily) they have choice in how they handle this (although this is debatable as well) and how they act (they have control to SOME extent). I am sorry if I come across negatively, it is just that sometimes it would be very refreshing if we treated others without underestimating their ability to know themselves. That said, I hope that noone will feel what I feel at the moment for my supervisor. It is horrible when you are in love with an anavailable person.

Thank you all for your responses (both the judgmental and the more understanding ones) My feelings for him are still the same, even more intense I would say. He is unusually nice to me (I forgot to mention that he does not know anything about my personal life) in every level. Anyway, I know what people here will say. Sometimes, things that we feel do not sound nice and people are too quick to judge or give reasons why a person feels the way it feels (because I broke up for example) using their own schemata of cause and effect. I just shared these feelings with you for understanding.

Well he would never admit it because he is very "serious" but if he showed some interest, I would be very happy. I know it may sound imature, childish or whatever but I would feel wonderful if he showed some interest in me. Just this! I respect him a lot and I also respect his marriage; I would never take it a step further. But I have to admit I wouldnt mind flirting a bit with him (always in an acceptable way-nothing too much).

broke up

The thing is that I dont expect anything from him, I just enjoy so much being around him, although very often I caught myself dressing up for him, doing my hair, looking at him deeper in the eyes than I would normally do etc. I would just like to see a level of interest from his side. I know it doesnt sound nice at all, but it is how I feel. I dont want him to do anything, I would just like to know that he "feels" something for me, the minimum.

Hi all. I know it sounds very cliche, but I am in seriously in love with my supervisor. This was not the case from the start. I am 18 months in and I ve been feeling like this for the last 6 months. Now it gets more and more. I love working with him by his compute and I love it when he looks into my eyes when he explains things to me, the way he supports me in every situation, how clever and funny he is etc. The more I get to know him, the more I admire him. Of course it is a secret admiration as he is (apart from supervisor) a married man (he is only 5 years older than me, I am 26).

So you tell me not to have a problem with it because as a lady she likes him flirting with her? My goal is not to make her feel happy as a lady.

I suppose these things overlap Sara.

I want the best for him, but when it comes to him flirting with another woman just because he enjoys it, I wont accept it just because I want the best for him. The best for him should be me. I may meet her and form my own opinion although HIS opinion is what counts here and thats something I know. I am just curious to meet her, yes. He said she has a very nice smile and eyes, is very intelligent and knowledgable... so I guess my opinion wont really matter.

Thanks H and sylvester, I understand your points but its my nature not to worry about the other woman's intentions but my boyfriend's. I know he finds her attractive and that if it wasnt me, he would do something with her. Should this be enough to make me worry though? Is it just who he chooses to be or also who he thinks of/desires etc? You dont break up each time you are attracted by another perosn after all...

sylvester, wouldnt you feel bad if your girlfriend was getting pleasure by staring, smiling with another man at her job? A man that she found attractive and intelligent and sweet etc?

H, you have ever felt jealousy for a woman (at his work or anywhere else)?

Thanks juno. I really hate feeling like that. We have been together for 2 years and this is the only time that something like that comes up. I used to laugh at people who were jealous of their partners' THOUGHTS (not actions) about other people. Now its my turn to experience that!

404, I think I overread that. Does your boyfriend have a "sweet" person at work too?